Rick wrote: “So the trick is to have your feelings, and yet understand they are just the results of your expectations.
This is the core of Buddhism. All suffering, all pain, is the result of unfulfilled expectation.”
perfectly stated.
one of my favorite quotes that i meditate on when i’m feeling a bit perturbed is:
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”
and the exercise suggestion. winner! the other day, hubby and i were in a scuffle. i chose to not “get into it” with him and went for a run. when i came back i was of clear mind and was able to speak to him about the misunderstanding. we resolved the mishap and moved forward. he later said, “hey, when you’re pissed off at me…. or if you are feeling frustrated/emotional… tell me that you want to talk to me, but that you have to go run first, ok?! that way i know there’s something that is bothering you a lot, but i also know you’re not in the right state of mind to resolve it”. i just about died laughing when he said that. felt good to laugh at myself. 
good luck 2W. something will click for you. i swear it will. just have faith in yourself.
~v
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