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While ADD contributes to our personalities, it does not create them entirely. My best friend, who is the most tolerant person on earth, does say that we tend to be very self- focused. (Her boyfriend, brother and son are also ADD. Poor girl.) Not necessarily selfish or self centered; We honestly care about her and want to be there for her- but we’re so in the moment and such slaves to her train of thought that she can be talking about a problem she’s having and I’ll interrupt her (having unintentionally zoned out two minutes before) to tell her all about the new brand of lipstick that I’ve tried and OMG it’s so moisturizing, has she watched that new show on Animal planet and OMG aren’t gas prices insane? It’s exasperating for her, but she also knows that she can drag me back to the conversation that she needs to be having with me.
As for grudges, no, I don’t hold them unless it’s something huge. My mother in law used my add against me for years, twisting things around, making me doubt experiences and conversations I KNEW we’d had, even lying to my husband about things I’d said, and since my memory is terrible I couldn’t ever be sure she was lying. After eight years of that, plus countless other things she did to damage me and every aspect of my life, I have limited her influence in my life. Not because I’m angry, but because I’m not stupid and I know I need to protect myself. Ok, and because I’m angry. That’s the only grudge I have- because I can’t ever remember if or why I’m mad at someone else. I tend to get angry easily and get over it even more easily. I have a big blow up and five minutes later, I’m fine (although sometimes a little embarrassed.)
I don’t lie, either. Too much work to remember what the lie was and who I told it to.
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