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Lindstr7
I would not beat myself up.. ADHD is a genetic condition and I would not try to relive the past. Work on the future. Since ADHD is genetic there is a high probability your daughter has it.
My sugestions.
I would explain to your x- about having been diagnosed with ADHD and that you are now on medication….
(GOOD PART)…. He should see the change in your personality since starting medication…(you are not he same old “FLAKY YOU”
Pleas eexplain to him that ADHD is genetic and there is a posiblity that your daughter has it also….
Ask him to watch “ADD and loving it” .and talk to him about it. He should see some of the traits in your daughter (organization/clutter/inability to process verbal instructions. etc that you have noticed0..
You might suggest to him to agrree to have her checked.BY A DR-SPECIALIZED IN ADHD… There is nothing to loose. If she has it she can be treated. If your daughter does not have it then all the better. Hopefully this will be a joint decision. ADHD is a family issue even if you are no longer married to each other..
Having your daughter checked will give you peace of mind and greatly help any anxiety/guilt/stress you might have..
If you check the formum you will notice that “WE” are resiliant.. Medication/counceling will help you deal with the difficulty of raising a child. Think of yourself as being “REBORN” enjoy your life and your future.I assure you it will be marvelous.
Good luck on your journey
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