Hi everyone! I’m new to this website. A friend of mine actually found it and suggested it to me. I’m newly married (8 months now) and my husband has a severe case of ADHD. Lately we have been fighting a lot and after reading this forum I have to say that *toofat, you really hit the nail on the head I think with your advice. That it is up to ME to change MY behavior. I am in control of me and only me. The both of us are very stubborn and lets just say our arguments can get very heated (verbally). toofat, your advice also on a hug or a kiss is such a great way to try and handle a situation or potential situation. Or when my husband starts to come unwrapped as you say.
Also mofo, my husband is younger than me as well (by 5 years) and I think that is a factor at times as well. I am also feeling really disconnected from my husband lately and all we seem to do is argue, whether it is something he did to make me upset, or me just being negative.
Good luck to you and I am definitely going to keep on this website and reach to all of you for support. I am also going to try toofat’s ideas as I think they are an excellent beginning to living a less stressful life 
Thanks everyone!