Re: Not loving it, looking for suggestions.

[Misswho23]

I read your husband has started hoarding since being sober. It’s common.

Just before I stopped drinking I was diagnosed with ADHD part of it. It’s been about 16 months since I’ve drank. However I did taste a friends drink that she had made out of curiosity. The sip was so small it was more like just sticking my finger in it. She made the thing so strong all I could think was this would totally knock me out! No increased desire to drink over that. It’s funny but I really think having ADD may give us some weird cravings. Like sometimes I only want one type of food for a while. Sometimes it’s just rice or other stuff. Chocolate however is always good. Boy if you told me I had to stop chocolate!

Ok but back to you and the husband and hoarding. I have had bouts with hoarding. I’ve come to a couple of conclusions. 1. It was a way to deal with stress and changes 2. Anytime I feel a perceived lack of something either physical or emotional I tend to go and stock up on whatever. In another post since being on meds I wrote I discovered about a doz of rolls of scotch tape. Among other things because as an artist as well you know you will find something cool to do with that whatever thing it is. Or maybe you don’t have that tendency and it’s just your hubby.

Shopping also got me in trouble. When I would do that the drinking went down. When the drinking was up the shopping went down. When both of those were not on the active side it was eating. So I found I would just rotate from one things to another. Hoarding is another very, very common way to deal with depression and anxiety. SInce this started when your husband got sober I would bet since he’s no longer drinking to medicate the hoarding has taken it’s place. When I stopped drinking i had to focus on other ways to deal with anxiety. And it takes some time. With hoarding people often don’t actually see the quantities. I had to really stop and think and go through my house and actually count out stuff to get that I had more than enough of whatever.

Keep coming back. (that’s sounds like another group – LOL) But I have been there as well.

What kind of art do you do? I do (mediums) Graphite Drawing, Oil Painting, Computer Graphics, Jewelry Design and Floral design on occasion (after being a florist for 12 years) I’ve been doing Graphic Design for about 12+ years now. And I still don’t feel like I really know what I’m doing or can keep track of time. Argh! But at least am aware now.

Oh and I beat you I have a size 11 to put foot in mouth with. Yep folks my feet are like Peggy Hill’s. If you know that character.

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