I think it’s really great that you spoke directly with your sister, and didn’t let her go off on her fix-it pattern (good for you to see that clearly!). The outcome may not be exactly as you want, but at least you’ve gotten it off your chest and made an attempt to reach out to her with the truth of your situation as you see it.
That may not work with everyone, so don’t be discouraged. Some people are resistant to seeing anything other than the fixed opinions they hold so tightly to. My mom, for example, was angry about something that once happened at a sleep clinic, I said “Mom, write a letter to the doctor!” but she wouldn’t, she just didn’t want to let go of her anger. For some reason, for her, it felt better to be angry.REPORT ABUSE