hahahaha gem? awwwww, thats cute.
sorry about your dad kazuo- mine somehow sobered up and got into AA when i was 16- after being wasted for a good 50 years- but he’s still got a long way to go (15 years on) in the ’12 steps to not behaving completely inapropriately cos he’s an angry scared old git’ scheme of things. its not easy for anyone. addiction sucks.
i do sometimes wonder how many alcoholics are dealing with underlying ADHD as well as the obvious stuff like genetic predisposition, emotional escape from horrific upbringings/lack of coping skills -sorta underlying factors. i bet its much more than we realise. 