Re: Relieved to get husband's diagnosis – but now I'm angry!?

[Anonymous]

I was lucky, the book was available at our library. I didn’t finish it (I have a stack of about 30 books that are all on the go at one time or another and last Friday I took 12 books back to the library, Orlov’s book was one of them, I’d renewed it about 4 or 5 times) but I read most of it. It was very helpful.

I feel very different about my husband’s behaviour knowing that the way I’ve been reacting to it and trying to manage it doesn’t work and it doesn’t make either of us feel better. It’s very hard for him to open up, he has grown up with a lot of guilt so he tends to shut down and as a man he doesn’t like to talk about feelings and all that woo-woo stuff, but we’re getting better at it.

I did keep one book back from the library, and I’m finding it’s really useful for my learning style. It’s called “Taming Your Gremlin”. I probably heard about it on this site (THANK YOU WHOEVER YOU ARE). It’s useful for anyone, not just ADHDers. If you can find it at your local library, you might want to have a look at it.

We also have a meditation teacher we see weekly for individual meetings who is also a psychologist and although he’s not helping specifically with the ADHD issues, he is very helpful in many other ways with our patterns of behaviour.

It’s probably good that you are feeling triggers. I am dealing with some submerged but recently emerged unresolved grief, and I was experiencing a lot of physiological distress without knowing the reason why. At least you can face your triggers and fears head on knowing what they are about! That’s a positive for both of you, I think!

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