Thanks, Bella- I can definitely identify with your struggle to keep up an appropriate level of contact. I’m good at the extremes- all the time or none of the time- but can’t wrap my brain around intermittent!!
As for my post above: I can only say “Note to self: when posting on an ADHD board for much-needed sympathy and advice, DON’T make it SO LONG that your fellow ADHD’ers get DISTRACTED by paint drying while reading it!!”
Sorry for that. Guess I type like I talk- without a clue as to how long I go on! 
“Abby someone.”
“Abby who?”
“Abby….Normal.”
REPORT ABUSE