Re: The Mysterious Rules of the Friendship Game

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Thanks, Bella & Saffron!! As always, it’s a comfort to know that others experience the same issues, means I’m not adrift on my own little chunk of ice, like Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer or something! :0)

Bella, I do tend to blame myself as you do; maybe that’s a habit we develop from feeling “out of the loop” on a lot of the Rules, huh? I sometimes trip all over myself apologizing, which can add to the general picture of social incompetence I portray so well sometimes!

Saffron, thanks for your kind post and compliments. I love your idea of putting keeping-in-touch tasks on your To Do list! I’m going to try something like that, as well as the “put it out there” statements you made to your friends. Who knows? They might not totally identify with that sort of thing not coming naturally, but it’s very possible it hasn’t occurred to them that the reasons behind our erratic contact might be a skill deficit we WANT to correct, but continue to struggle with. Maybe it would help to ask them for their as to what they’d like to see from us and prompts that we need to step up our game? That’s pretty empowering, to be asked what you want right up front, so it might endear them to us, thus lead to a bigger margin of error forgiveness!!

:::sigh:::: Once again, it feels like a damn lot of work. :^) Oh, why can’t everybody value equally the things that come easy to us ADHD’ers?! #perfectworldwish

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