Re: The Silent Treatment

[Anonymous]

BC ‘s mental healthcare does not like to get down and dirty and actually provide counselling of any sort.

Out here, they seem most happy to suggest alternate, publicly funded support groups that have spiffy names

like ‘Avenues for Couples” . there are too many books and too many self help sites open for all sorts of us.

I have taken to writting down the rare times when someone has said something that seems to really apply to me.

There is a lot of stuff being said about adhd, drugs, cbt, coaching and etc … i think that many have seen adhd as

another soft target for selling whatever book or treatment they have, so we are hit with both the ‘magic pill’ and

the attached belief that we need to ” fix whatever it is that we have”.

Sorry TooFat does this much better .. i am floundering with setting my thoughts up

To get to the point and to shorten the tale of what i was told …

i have had this adhd and associated stuff for decades. Long before there were therapy or drug treatments,

there was ADHD behavior, and over time there was kinds of adjusting … behavior modifiying as we

attempted to survive in what at times seems to be a strange world.

1 } Stop assumptions 2} stop dwelling on / in the past 3} live as if you have no memory of yesterdays [see #2]

4] speak to people, or do not speak to people, but do not get wound up with how they feel about you or what

they may or may not think about yuou …. that is not your job.

5 relax, sniff flowers, bring your senses into enjoying the present moment … no worrying .. it does not do anything

So that is the greeting card version …. get one or more solid friends .. Barkley et al have said that they are working on

finding a new name, one that more clearly encompasses what ADHD seems to shape up to be … if they are in this

process, then should we be concerned with the lables or should we be concerned with doing what it takes to find a

life that is ‘as good as it gets” ?

ps yes i have been told i have aspergers and anxiety and adhd and perhaps other stuff as well …

not sure that it is a good idea to identfy myself that way … do i have it or does it have me … strange shite “

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