Re: To Medicate, Or Not To Medicate

[Anonymous]

I am starting to wonder where the phone anxiety stems from. My ADHD son has never has issues making phone calls but I have always hated them. I think it’s because I have trouble thinking on my feet. I can DO things under pressure, and cope very well, but talking under pressure gets me all tied up in knots. I think some of it also stems from a social anxiety that I developed when I changed schools from a local primary school to a private girl’s college. Girls are much less forgiving about social blunders, and I really felt like an outcast there. I became very introverted and kept to myself a lot, after I had so-called friends turn their backs on me and stop talking to me with no explanation given. I think my tendency to talk before thinking, as well as my off the wall thought processes, just got in the way of friendships. I think if I had been to a co-ed school, I would have had more boys as friends. They seem to be more tolerant of bizzare behaviour. I know my son seems to have plenty of friends, and his over-the-top and off-the-wall comments are more a source of humour and are tolerated because boys are expected to be like that to some degree, as well as because he has a generally open, honest, and easy-going nature.

Actually, come to think of it…..my son has had a few issues with phone calls. Not often, but the time I am thinking of was when he had to notify someone that he would not be at a rehearsal. He was really unsure of what to say, as he knew it would not be well received. He was going over and over about what things might crop up in the conversation and how he might answer. He got himself all in knots trying to predict how the phone call might progress. Very much like what I go through when I have to make a call, but I go through it with even the simplest of calls (like making a doctor’s appointment).

It’s funny how I can stay calm in a medical emergency at work, and cope very well, but a basic phone call has me a nervous wreck!

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