Re: Vent on planning and Lateness

[Rick Green – Founder of TotallyADD]

I have found that my emotions run away from me when I’m feeling defensive. Especially when I’m called on something. And I get, that when someone else does the same thing, it’s doubly upsetting.

Problem is me getting upset just costs me my power, my calm, my energy.

And yes, like you, it’s cost me my sleep.

If something is really bothering me I either talk it over with my wife. Venting. Or I write it out. Or, if I’m able, and this takes practice, I say, “I will worry about this tomorrow.” and then I deliberately keep bringing my thoughts back to something I like. Or read a book I like to pull my attention onto something good.

It’s been a painfully slow process for me to realize that people are gonna do annoying things. They always are. It’s never gonna stop. Ever. That’s life.

And it’s only annoying because I think it should be some other way. “All unhappiness is due to unfulfilled expectation.”

But I expect people to be on time. Or want to hear my good ideas. Or give me credit for my work. Or help me. Or support this wonderful website… etc. etc. etc.

A book I recommend: “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie.

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