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Ahh crap, I can very much relate to your pessimism. I live there. But take many vacations and I’m always better off when I do. Here’s an old quote I’ve used time and again over the years.
“There is a principle, which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance – that principle is contempt prior to investigation. –Herbert Spencer.
It’s a good quote to consider when you think about the “cool club” that surfers seem to belong to. I personally was never invited into the water by any other than my own inner demons. The thrill of danger. The agony of defeat. Adventure, and the quest for spiritual identity.
Back onto topic,
Anywayz. I guess you would have to click on a few links to understand what the heck I’m talking about. I would try to explain, but just clicking and reading about what changes are taking place here will probably help ya. Like the one link I posted above. did you check it out?.
There is a place for you in this community. You decide, you get to choose if we’re worth the risk of letting us get to know you in the long term, only time can make that happen. Stick around and be a part of this community. We’re not likely to reject you the same way so much of the rest of the world may seem to have rejected you. I have a strong tendency to test new prospects for friendship in the same way I’ve seen in many of your posts. I push and push peoples patience until I really know they’re probably willing to be the kinds of friends I really need. But It’s a lot of extra work I put potential friends through. The truth is that I’m not all that special, or “great”. So I end up chasing away lot’s of good friendships that may have been thoroughly satisfactory.
Hopefully you’ll take a look at the link I posted. Read it all and consider being a part of this community at some level, maybe the same level as me. You’ve got more to offer than you may realize. I have had a lot of fun here. But at the same time, I’ve also found real people I can relate to.
I’ll bet I’ve got as many chips on my shoulder as you do, but that’s not always a bad thing. It’s just something to have in common. Another reason to think positive about finding some real friends in the world. No matter where on this shrinking Earth we find them.
I’m glad yer sticking around allan.
PS. Oakland Raiders just finally WON! a game.. lol. so it pays after all to be loyal. Maybe they don’t have much of a team left this year. But I’ll be feeling even better next year when they start to really pull it together and start winning some superbowls!.
Take it easy my friend.
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