Reply To: Confused… Loss of Motivation

[blackdog]

@jojosephine – You just hit the nail on the head. I have been thinking exactly that lately, about doctors mistaking ADD for depression. There is no doubt that I also have depression. But I don’t think that is responsible for my lack of motivation and zest. I think the clearest indicator that I also have ADD is that when I am feeling happy and having a good day emotionally I still don’t get anything done. When I wake up in the morning and I feel happy the first thing I think is “oh, I want to play video games!” or “oh, I want to go out and get a latte!’. It’s never “oh, I need to scrub the kitchen floor”.

@sdwa – I always love reading your comments. They are so beautiful and insightful. 🙂

What you describe is exactly why I don’t finish things. I get so frustrated if I don’t have all the pieces. And when there are a lot of supplies and a lot of steps involved in doing something it just seems like too much work. And the doubt. Why am I wasting my time on this? I should be doing something else, something more worthwhile, more productive.

And the way you describe happiness is perfect. I remember one time I was watching George Stroumboulopoulos (try spelling that without looking it up) on his old show, The Hour. He said he doesn’t believe it’s possible to have true happiness but that you can find balance and you can have happy moments. That has always stuck in my mind because I realized when I heard it that one of my problems is that I expect to be happy all the time. I want life to be like a movie where everything just automatically works out and everyone lives happily ever after. But life ain’t like that.

Oh, and jojosephine, when the kids draw on the floor with markers, they are making more work for themselves, not you. Make them clean it up. They’ll be less likely to do it again. 😉

 

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