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I’m so sorry. 🙁

From my own experience my advice would be to take it easy if you can. Reduce your hours at work or look into taking a leave, maybe apply for disability or employment insurance, if that’s possible. And spend as much time with your mom and the rest of your family as possible. Say everything you need to say and do everything you want to do.  Take advantage of the time you have.

This part is the hardest, the pre-grief period, when you know what is coming but you just can’t accept it yet. You will be riding the biggest emotional roller coaster in the world for awhile. You need to give yourself space to deal with those feelings. And don’t listen to what anyone else tells you about how or what you should feel or what is best for you. This is your journey and only you know the path to take. As long as you are taking care of yourself and staying healthy.

As for the medication, I can’t say. Maybe you should discuss it with your doctor. It might help you to go off it for awhile. Or you could try reducing it or adding an anti anxiety med to take the edge off. But that is really up to you and your doctor. You need to grieve but if the pain is unbearable then it might be good to do something to numb it for awhile.

And remember, you need to take care of yourself first. That’s the number one rule. Take care of yourself so that you will be able to take care of others.