Reply To: High IQ and you can't market or sell a product or youself

[RichD73]

Hi Scattybird and Blackdog,

(I like the names, makes me feel like I’m in dances with wolves). The confidence issue is central. The capacity for self-sabotage is rife for people with ADD. History has taught us that things don’t come as easily. We bury ourselves in the detail and miss the big picture routinely. It’s disheartening but attendant to that is the capacity to personalize comments you hear. We do need to sell ourselves or at least not jump to self-reproach the second something goes wrong. I have immediately taken responsibility for things that weren’t that bad or partly the responsibility of others out of a sense of misplaced guilt. I suspect that we are harder on ourselves and that others struggle too but cover themselves better. They are also genuinely more relaxed. Depression can be co-morbid with ADD, a fact with me. This pushes one into black and white thinking whereupon selling oneself becomes impossible. Maybe start with telling yourself when you’ve done a good job and should something not go to plan, recount all the time you commit to your job on a daily basis. That works for me. When I realize how much time I dedicate to getting the job done I forgive myself the glitches. I’m human, I can only do so much and, crucially, THEY’RE lucky to have somebody who cares as much as i do about getting it right.

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