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No worries, I understand you’re just sharing what is going on with you and are looking for some feedback.
An overactive mind can definitely get you in some mental loops. I know I’ve dealt with obsessional thinking and rumination, how much of this is ADHD I’m not sure.
It sounds like you’re aware that doing something to the point of making someone else uncomfortable is not a good thing. It’s important for us to step outside ourselves and consider how what we do affects others, ADHD or not.
Men look at women that’s what we do. I can’t think of any male I know who is attracted to the opposite sex that doesn’t get distracted by women. Even my most conservative friends will steal a glance, married or not. Make sure that you’re not making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe you’re saying to yourself “Don’t Look! Bad Person!” and making things worse, “obsessing about obsessing”.
Not sure how much medicine will help with this. Maybe it will lock you in a bit on what you’re doing and therefor decrease the wondering eye.
For me, I have a tendency to fall into obsessional thinking and ruminating when I’m self monitoring a bit too much. Somehow I’ve gotten on the mental track of observing in an obsessive manner how everything and everyone I come in contact with are affecting me. What helps me, is to shift focus from “What’s going on with me?” to… what can I do for someone else. Maybe I’ll touch base with a parent or family member who I haven’t spoken to in a while and who I know would love to hear from me. Doing some physical labor for someone that doesn’t have the time or isn’t able (I did this on Saturday) helps me quite a bit. Making up a care package for someone else and going through the process of getting it mailed out (I would like to try this).
Thoughts come and go, some we’re o.k. with, and some tend to weigh us down. We don’t have to follow them, or believe them to be true.
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