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32 years old and I finally put two and two together

32 years old and I finally put two and two together2010-12-13T04:16:24+00:00

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    EARTH where is that! Rick, U forgot the Map again! I thought we were heading for Saturn ADHDers yep we are awesome! Even on “Pluto” Yep we had to venture out from that dinky planet……. Our big Egos U know .. We needed more space to put our crap we can’t let go of and more wall space to hang all the post it Notes!

    Peace, knowledge and success my long lost brother “Hyperman”!

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    #97620

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    Yes our thinking is why we run circles around those linear folks :-) Only having just written that not sure it makes as much sense as when I first thought it!

    I like the idea of sending all that extra stuff we have into outer space njadd :-)

    Sorry just had to unscramble my thinking. Anyone else get that need to sort of dump thoughts?

    It’s occurring to me that perhaps following the David Allen Getting Things Done ( GTD) method and dumping all of your thoughts into what he calls the inbox – basically a master list of all the stuff you have to do – is especially necessary for our thinking style in order to make room for more thoughts? Maybe one would even sleep better?

    Think I’ll try it out tonight.

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    Live Long and Prosper my brethern

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    @JMW: SOOOO much easier to write than to talk. I sound like a babbling fool, but let me write and it is much better. I am sure it’s because you can instantly take back (erase! there it never happened) the thoughtless stuff that we are so good at and it all looks great.


    @Nellie
    : “Linear” thinking vs. “ADD” thinking–I think that’s brillliant and so fitting! We are just in another dimension. Have to read up on GTD. I have been accused of having “No internal monologue”–Everything I am thinking gets dumped out verbally as I am thinking it whether appropriate or not–then analyzed afterward (too late of course) for validity, tactfulness, etc. People think that’s “cute” and “quirky” but I don’t! Hard to be taken seriously when you can’t stay on a train of thought!

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    Hi All! I just read over the posts, and I really appreciate hearing all of your stories. I’m 35 and was just diagnosed with ADHD this year. I sought help because I returned to school and was spinning my wheels no matter how hard I worked. Once I was diagnosed and was on the medication, everything clicked just like you all talk about. Unfortunately I was 1/2 way through my first term of vet school, and not able to catch up. I ran into some “challenges” with the school administration, but the short version is I’ve been granted a medical leave of absence from school and will restart the program this coming fall.

    @ JMW: I was very unsure about taking the meds at first. I rarely took any medication (cold meds, etc) as a kid and have really had an aversion to most medication since I can remember. I even opted to “grin and bare it” rather than take pain meds several times because of how they made me feel. It’s been a few months and I can tell you that the medicine really REALLY helps. I have found, however, that paying close attention to my diet is another huge key. I lost a lot of weight very quickly when I first started the meds. I’ve since figured out, mostly through trial and error, that I need to eat ~ 3X the protein I was eating before. That’s just my experience, every person’s metabolism and body chemistry is different. I guess my point is that the meds are safe, and they help, but you have to know your body and pay attention to everything (diet, exercise, sleep), because they all work together. It’s hard to do, but if you can keep a detailed log (food, exercise, mood, sleep quality & amount, time and dosage of medicine taken, effects of meds, and anything else you can think of), it makes it a lot easier to talk to your Doc. The more information they have, the better they can make decisions about your treatment. I’m also working with a coach – I’m amazed on a daily basis how many “life skills” I never mastered, or even realized I was supposed to learn!

    @ Julianna – Have you read Sari Solden’s book about Women and ADD? I ask because several times you mention “babbling.” Solden’s book talks about the different social needs of little boys vs little girls and how those differences actually affect how the “H” presents. It all fits in w/ what Dr J has said about impulsivity vs compulsion and the importance of looking at your behavior as a child before the age of 5. If you haven’t read it yet, take a look at it. I know, I know … I’ve been on the receiving end of many self-help books – oddly, even more since my diagnosis. It just makes me laugh. Who seriously publishes a “self-help” book about ADHD? It’s got to be some sort of sick joke, cause there’s a ton of them out there. But I promise, this is a book you will be able to read all the way through! I couldn’t put it down.

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    I went through my life thinking I was a screwup, I felt I was smart but could not succeed, my social skills were great in the short term but I had very few long term friends. I was always in arguments with people, I was a wreck looking for a place to happen, I often hung out with older people because their world moved faster, when I drank I was a binge drinker, I didn’t drink often but did it all in one night then passed out. I dropped out of high school in Gr. 11, later got a G.E.D. Gr. 12 standing and manage to do an apprenticeship, although I managed to skip 2 levels of training, when I was 50 I got a diploma in Operations Management because I was able to write the exams, had a terrible time with assignments and projects I worked a year in the field and got fired because I couldn’t follow directions or organise projects. I went back to school and trained as a computer tech, did that for five years and switched back to my original trade of Mechanic, Now I teach aprentices but fly by the seat of my pants with terrible organisation abilities. During my work career I’ve had 40 different employers and five spouses. Finally at Christmas time during the school break I was watching Dr. Oz and the subject was ADHD, I couldn’t believe it, they were talking about my life, the more I watched the more I felt like crying, not from sadness but from the epiphany I was having, It all made sence, I finally understood why everyone all my life had though I was a jerk. When I got my senses back I started researching, I googled and read and watched videos and bought books, I went to my doctor and asked for a referral to the local psychiatrist who advertised knowledge of adult ADHD. Finally last week on April 26 I had my appointment and on Friday I started on Concerta 18mg (low to start as I have some cardiac conditions to work around) I had my 65 birthday on Feb. 17, it has been a long time coming, I sure hope it works.

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    #97625

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    Wow Addparker, that’s quite a life story! I hope the meds work for you, are you noticing any effect in your daily functioning so far?

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    I started on 18mg for 3 days, today I increased to 27mg, I haven’t noticed a change although yesterday I completed all my “Honey do’s”, so maybe things are improving. I see my GP tomorrow to review my dosage. I have atrial fibrilation and high BP, both of which I take meds for, so they are being very cautious about interaction between them. This site is very enlightening and comforting, when I read about the success of all the other people here, and see the level of support and encouragement that is given here. I think there should be a resource added to the site for members to seek out other members in their home area for meetings ( or even social gatherings over caffeine ) like AA and other groups that share similar causes to share solutions and tips.

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    #97627

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    Well good luck with the meds addparker. I am also taking Concerta after trying various others. So far this seems to be the best for me. My measure of whether or not the meds are working when I’m in doubt is getting through something incredibly boring. As silly as it sounds, sorting laundry was a horrendous chore for me before – now no big deal :-)

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