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Do I take another job after losing 10???

Do I take another job after losing 10???2011-01-17T02:47:44+00:00

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    I don’t know if anyone will be able to help me find any answers…. I’m a gifted worship leader and musician. I hold 2 master’s degrees from great schools, and close to my doctorate in voice. Beyond that, I’m really good at motivating and organizing musicians, helping singers and choirs reach their potential, and making sound systems work well… I’m also a dynamic upfront leader… can lead from guitar and piano… everything most pastors want in a worship leader.. and I love doing it… when everything is working the way it should, there is a magical quality to it.. I’ve grown choirs of 80 and 120 singers from nothing….

    I have a great family and wife, but I just can’t hold on to a job… mostly for all the reasons people with ADD don’t.. in the church, there are always 1 or 2 folks who make it their personal mission to “take me down”… they see me as a liar, unreliable and difficult… The church holds relationships above everything else, and while I’m better with meds, it’s still difficult to look people in the eye, drop whatever I’m doing and pay attention to the person, etc…

    I understand I have the problem, and have worked hard to get past it, but even in my last church where I was paid a great salary, and had been on meds for a year or so only made it 8 months before the pastor let me go because he didn’t like my relationship skills… he told me I was the best worship leader he’d ever seen, but a couple of key people close to him were constantly complaining about me to him… I would go to those folks in humility and try to work things out… saying the pastor had told me they were upset… mostly their response would be to disavow anything the pastor said(oh, I’m not upset, I have no idea why he would say such a thing…), and then go right back to him complaining all the more….

    So, I’m working 2 jobs now, going to school, barely able to pay the bills and I have a great church very interested in me… I’ve been very up front about my ADD with them and what it looks like… Do I take the risk of taking the job and moving my family if they offer the job????

    How do I provide for my family? How do I get past the huge fear and dread of losing another job??? How do I deal with the insecurity when I have a job that I’m constantly going to screw it up somehow????



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    What is your family saying to you. I think at this point it really has to be a family decision whether you are willing to take this next leap. But if this is what you are passionate about then I think you need to do it. Everything has risks however you should be upfront and tell the new pastor that you want to remain in the background as much as possible so that the same complaints do not happen. And if a person is always going behind your back to complain then they need to really look at their own behavior before doing this, especially if you come to them and they can’t look you in the eye and do so. And shame on the pastor for not calling a meeting of all the parties involved before he decided to sack you. That is part of his training and as a Christian he should be helping you foster relationships within the church.

    Also if this is a perpetual fear that this is going to end in failure you probably need to speak to a counselor about this before you cause this just because of your anxiety. Good luck, and remember the past is behind you and the future is yours to write. Don’t let the past close the book on the future.


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    this sir seems to be a faith issue so the thing is do you beleve you a are meant or even more called to go then go and trust it will work out that is faith, but if you go and seed on soil that you are not called too you will once again grow a crop that you will not see the harvest. because it is not that you don’t know how to grow a garden it seems to me that you are seeding on land that you have not been given. take joy in your heart tha there is fruit from your labour and you have seen the fruit growing on the vine.the truth you seek is already in your heart and your understanding. you and your faimly will have to choose what to do. you have to understand that if your heart is in the right place you have been blessed to see fruit growing from your lobor that in itself would be a blessing to a lot of us. hore that helps.

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