Hello!
My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 1/2 years and moved in together a year ago. He is 63 and I am 44. Although he has never been diagnosed with ADD and was not receptive to my suggestion that he might have ADD, I very strongly suspect that he has ADD. I caught part of a show on PBS last spring and went “omg, that’s him!”
He is so caught up in seeing things like this as character deficits rather than untreated medical conditions that I haven’t been able to get him to discuss it. I wish he would, because I strongly believe he would benefit greatly from treatment. I don’t want to change him–I love him–yet at the same time I can’t deal with the clutter, chaos, misplaced items, mood swings, impulsive behavior, inappropriate comments and procrastination.
I just ordered “You Mean I’m not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?” and a couple of other books. I look forward to reading them and learning from you about how you maintain healthy, positive relationships built on appreciation for the positive attributes of folks who have ADD/ADHD.
MissMuffins
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