Single and Lonely, how do you cope?

[Shadow Nexus]

Please no posts on how to fix it or advice! This is different topic. Also, I have lots of ideas in play.

I manage to keep busy so I don’t think about it much. It’s a cycle of up and down. Example, I find a way to find someone. I’m hopeful, only to be disappointed later, again and again. Also, I wake up in the morning and all the experiences and failure hit me all at once. Even worse, I wake from a simple in-each others arms dream with someone. Also, I have a major life event without the support. Meditation, singing, and music are some tools I use for breaking loose from the loneliness shockwave. My imagination is highly developed(cinema and television arts profession) and my fantasy’s are very real to me. Breaking the down cycle often takes hours, sometimes to the next morning.

How do you cope? Even on v-day. What are your tools?

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[Tiddler]

When I lived alone after a break-up, I deliberately didn’t get a tv so I wouldn’t sit watching stuff I had no interest in. It was a small thing but it meant that I was choosing to listen to music, read, make an effort to go out or even get stuff done (sometimes.)

I guess this was before I was familiar with the internet because I can waste quite a lot of time on the computer rather than the tv now so maybe that’s not all that helpful.

I also made some inappropriate choices about who I spent time with sometimes that I wouldn’t do again with hindsight.

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