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Who do i tell? Should i feel bad for telling people?

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    Hey everyone!

    I’m kinda new and idont really know how this works but here goes. I feel like i have no filter and i feel like i am way too open about my adhd. I was diagnosed pretty recently and recently started taking medication. My issue is for some reason i keep finding myself telling practically everyone what i have and that im taking medication. At the time i dont really care but afterwards im like damn i dont think i should have told them. Especially since i have heard some people saying bad things about me such as: she’s using that as an excuse for failing this subject or shes lying to her doctor and blah blah. Does anyone else have this issue??


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    Hi Reni,

    It is expected that people will judge what they simply don’t understand.

    The thing is I’m not even diagnosed but as I’ve tried to talk about it with certain family members I get dismissive feedback. I’ll be told that ADHD isn’t real or that I’m just making excuses – so to some extent I understand where you’re coming from. It is common for a lot of people to undermine ADHD and consider it a fake disability. However people with ADHD (diagnosed or not) may face real difficulties that limit them in various ways. These disadvantages and limitations are not perceived when they have real life consequences. You should also take the time to acknowledge the potential strengths that have come with it… perhaps, that will take some time to develop or for you to recognize. And in doing so, maybe you’ll eventually learn to embrace the good qualities.

    Just remember that you seeking treatment is your way of mitigating the difficulties of ADHD. You have taken the step to ensure that it doesn’t hinder your ability to function at a socially accepted rate. In other words, you’ve done the right thing and you should not feel ashamed. Also, stigma comes from those who just haven’t taken the time to understand the nature of your situation. These people who are saying awful things about you are clearly not worth your attention!

    My suggestion is to be selective with who you share with, i.e. those who you trust, are comfortable with and know enough to not pass judgment. Although I applaud you for being very open about it because you sure have no reason to feel bad about it. I think you’re fine in telling whoever you feel like telling as long as you remember that there will always be people who won’t understand and will be judgmental. The key is to disregard these people and keep in mind that you are not alone!

    Take care,

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