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Thanks all for your responses. Interesting. Keep them coming…..anyone else want to weigh in?

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Thanks for the advice/suggestions all!

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Wgreen:

Thanks for your suggestions.

How would you go about not getting into the pattern of “parenting” the spouse who needs the help with organization and impulsivity? That situation can get negative really fast.

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ADDled:

Thanks for your comments and advice. The comments about adjusting are probably really accurate and understandably that would take some time. I would be interested in him going for a follow-up with the psych, though I don’t think he is so interested at this point. I wouldn’t mind going myself just to ask questions and learn more information to see what I can do to be more helpful but I’m not sure if he’d be into me doing that, either!

As for meds… the psychologist can’t prescribe and that is left to the general physician (who in our case/my opinion doesn’t have a great understanding about ADHD, especially adult ADHD) On “check-ins” with his general doc about the antidepressants, I’m guessing that my husband and my perceptions of how things are working would be quite different.

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Carry:

Thanks for your comments. He’s been on the antidepressant for almost a year now. I couldn’t say it he feels like he is “clear and presesnt.” From an outsider perspective, the med seems to have made his moods more stable. Hopefully that helps him feel “clearer” but I really don’t know. Again, from the outsider perspective, he’s either really overwhelmed by the “old habits” and doesn’t know where to start and/or what to do or is still in somewhat denial….or a combination of the two. ??

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SDWA:

Thank you for all your insight and suggestions. I will look into CHADD and look for support groups around my area. I appreciate your feedback about focusing on me and how I feel and not about him and what he’s doing. I understand that would be really overwhelming and counterproductive. I have to say that I am also really overwhelmed by it all at times but when I’m feeling more positive, I can step back and think about one thing to try to address at a time and how we can work on it together.

What have your experiences been with coaching?

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Allan:

Thanks for the encouragement and affirmation. It helps me not feel alone on an island as I sometimes do when there aren’t other people around me that I can talk to about this. This forum is a great way to feel support and to hear other’s voices on the topic. I appreciate it, folks!

 

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Takingbacktyler:

Thanks for the advice. Talking at a time when it’s low stress is definitely important. I have to say some days that’s hard to come by! Thanks for the reminder about not just talking about his issues but also about my own. That makes for a much better conversation about “us” and not just about “him.” I admire your positivity and reflection when being able to “step back” and think about making each other better and that it’s for the good of the relationship as well as the individual. How did you get such a good perspective? What’s your secret? 🙂

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Thanks! It’s actually a book I own and I’m in the midst of reading it for a 2nd time. Good for you both for reading it together! I’d love for my husband to read it too but he’s not so interested.

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