Re: Beating yourself up about your mistakes – especially if they affect others

[Anonymous]

Haha I find it funny reading these sometimes because the important issue is always the first one and than I read all the other ones and want to comment on them. Classic. But seriously I have to go up and read again…………..

Your story is so relatable to mine it is scary.

I carry the same guilt issues and I believe everyone on here does but they just look at it differently. That is the beauty of individualistic power. Anyways the guilt I feel is so overwhelming at times. I am 26 and have finally started to see a counselor about all these issues and have come to the conclusion that because I have been put down my figures of authority my whole life I have been left with this sense of always wanting to make sure everyone around me is happy. IF they are not happy than it is my fault and I take that straight to heart.

I also know that I have created defence mechanisms for when I feel emotionally vulnerable. For example my gf and I have a great relationship and she deals well with my ADHD. However there are times in which something didnt go quite the way I expected it, And I go into to WW2 mode. I feel this overwhelming feeling of guilt and that because it didnt go as plan than nothign is going to go as planned. Then I start to get really worked up and begin to think nothign I do is right and I feel bad that she has to deal with such a shitty bf and tell her that she may as well break up with me because she can do better.

Than I feel guilty that I am beating my self up over this and getting rid of the girl I love all because I have this huge problem when things go wrong. I have been learning how to cope it day to day.

This probably isnt making sense. This is one of my problems hahaha, getting it from my head to the computer. If we were talking one on one I know you would be like aghhhhhhhhhhh im the same way, or id be like aghhhhhhhhhhhhhh I am the same way haha.

I think the important thing to remember so you do not beat your self up is what everyone has been saying. You can’t change the past. But you can deal with the future. I know you say you don’t take medication to control your ADHD. What do you do? Everyone needs to have some coping method. Otherwise you wouldn’t have issues. So I would suggest finding a method to control your obsessive thoughts towards guilt.

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