The one thing I learned through my tumultuous marriage was that every one of us – every single person – interprets the display of love differently. One person feels loved when their partner says it forcefully, while another feels loved when their partner takes the time to pick their clothes up off of the floor. The trick is to find that out about each other – which counselling will help to do.
I remember a story about a conversation between a man and a woman where she said “you never tell me you love me”. His response was “I said that to you when we got married 25 years ago. If something changes, I’ll let you know.” 