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Your welcome aelvecro! I live in a small town out in the boonies where I KNOW there must be other adults with ADD, but they are all hiding hahahaha
Trashman – I was just talking about this with my ADD coach. Man it would be nice if life were a bunch of formulas. Quick simple ones. You want to make money? well this + that = BAM! YOU RICH!! Ahh… That would be nice! We were also talking about how with ADD you DO need to be shown every little step!! I know I do at least. “So you want me to wash the floor… How?… With a rag you say…. Ok… which rag? How big? What kind of cleaner? Where do I start? Hot or cold water? What motion do I use?? AHHH OVERLOAD!! IM DONE!” Thats the way I am hahahahaha
As for worker material… I beg to differ. I havent had a job more than a year only because I get bored and move on. I LOVED being a receptionist because I got to meet new people everyday and got to talk a lot. I love to talk. But my relationships were only skin deep which I love (doesnt take time or effort to keep those and they are relaxed not forced). I also LOVED dealing with complaints because I love to problem solve for others. I LOVED working as a cook because I had to be in a million places at once with in the chaos and we can function in chaos. My husband on the other hand…. He has ADD too (well im 100% sure) but he has problems at work. His social anxiety is high so he always bombs interviews, he cant read and write well so he bombs some dumb tests they make him write… he cant pay attention to small details… he misses them no matter how hard he tries and working in the metal industry the cost of metal really adds up! He is a BRILLIANT man! He can fix ANYTHING! What takes other people hours and hours takes him 2 minutes literally to fix. Hes an awesome problem solver. One of his last employers was very mad at him because he claimed my husband wasnt doing his job… meanwhile my husband would bend over backwards for his boss… problem is he would wander off and fix this or that instead of doing what he should of been… He would go without telling his boss…. His priorities were not right. He is very absent minded and has NO sense of time which is apart of ADD. If I dont have my watch with me and I dont keep a constant eye on it, I dont either. Mind you… I got sick of watching my watch and set myself a million alarms. One to tell me its time to make lunch, pick up the kids, go to work, etc etc etc.
With reading books on ADD, having an ADD coach, and the help of medications I learn more and more each day what is the ADD and how to – not work around it – but with it and accept that this is the way I am. No it REALLY is that hard for me to be organized! Yes I can ONLY do things at the last minute. Example. I HATE HATE HATE laundry… I tried to do it everyday I just couldnt. I accepted it and made a system that worked for me. Im a last minute kinda gal so I bought only enough clothes to last the week, on Sundays the day before I need all the clothes I wash them all. That way I have all the clothes I need for the week and there isnt a lot! Books, ADD coach and meds cost a lot! So I will gladly share any tidbits I have learned and my own experiences so far!! Though I am only learning too!
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