Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[Anonymous]

@Billd,

I agree completely with what you are saying about delegating, your bang on! I’m the same way, and it takes alot of work to be able to start doing so. Note how “takes” is in the present tense here, because that conscious effort is always there, and it never really becomes second nature. At least not for me. It also takes alot of effort to accept the end result, as you speak the truth when saying things are never better done then by yourself. But like any other aspect of life, you have to make compromises, and I can compromise some perfection on some less important stuff for the non-hassle that action would cause me. Sort of give a little to receive more.

At some point you have to realize you cant do everything, if this is true for normal people, imagine for us. This is not admitting to a deficiency, or letting it get the better of you, but everyone’s reality. Our society is lined-up that way. We all have obligations, no one only does what they like or want. We all have things we Have to do, and that is just the way it is. But it comes down to choices, perhaps secondary choices.

What you cant control and have to do for yourself does not bring a choice, but many other actions do. And it is choosing the actions that are Meaningfull TO YOU amongst the futile ones of our lives that should get our attention, and this goes for everyone as well. But for adders, Often we dwell on stuff that is ultimately less important or less meaningfull, we self criticise ourselves for not being able to do this and that…but what are we really trying to prove?

It is as simple as going to the carwash instead of washing the car yourself.

Problem: dirty car, Solution: wash car. then comes the choice, go to the carwash or do it myself? I think we all know what washing it yourself might end-up like and the ordeal behind it. What do I have to gain as a person? Get it done by a machine, a pro if your anal about it, and spend that time doing something Meaninfull to you instead. You will have a better end-result. Now actually going to the car wash is another ordeal…lol

I go to a barber around the corner, does he do designer haircuts? no. But it’s a first come first serve place, no appointment needed. You know how much hassle that saves me…not worrying of being late, or forgeting the appointment. Just going in when I need. I am not persisting on taking two month ahead haircut appointments i will forget about, that in turn is a problem. thus the barber is a solution. It’s not crying myself a deficiency, it’S working with what I got and making the best of it FOR ME.

This brings me to a comment i made in another post. What is the legacy you want to leave behind? dumb question? Well I dont think so. As an example, Do you want to be remembered for the guy with the perfectly cut lawn and spent his week-ends plucking weeds, doubtfull, so why would that action be so important you coldnt get someone else to do it for you while you enjoy your family or focus (no pun intended) on another more meaningfull action, even if it is remodeling your bathroom and it takes 6 weeks longer then the average joe, if its meaningfull to you…so be it, dont let the lawn get in the way.

And for those who take this at a verry first degree, no I dont get everything done, no I dont delegate everything, nor can I. And I dont think I succeed well at taking action….I’m non Hyper adhd after all, but even if i can save 5% of the hassle in my life, it’S already 5% gained and 5% in the right direction.

just my 2cents

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