Reply To: How do I make myself SHUT UP?

[witamind]

I solved this problem for myself!!  I made up a game; I call ” Whatcha say!?”
I find it fun. Here is how you play:

Whatcha Say Game:

You are at an event, in a class, home etc, and you feel the urge to talk. STOP you must identify one person to listen to and  ask ?

1. You cannot talk unless person x asks you a real question or  – 1pnt each time.

2. You must provide honest reactions to what the other person is saying (via body lang & vocalizations) ( boring = yawn, funny= laugh, cute= wink*, crazy= big eyes, etc..) +1 per reaction

3. Ask two questions and 1 more anytime you drift off  -1 per drift

4. If you must talk (ONLY if person X asks you a real?) you speak calmly and be concise <  2 mins! +2 per x

5. After listening, go tell a friend/another person what you learned from person X. Must have at least 1 thing from 4/5  categories.  + or – 1 per

a. Personal detail (name, age, religion, hobby, subculture, religion, single?, ext… )

b. Professional detail (job, like it?, subject?, school?, classes, grades, etc…)

c. Were they interesting? (funny, selfish, crazy, etc…)

d.  How did they talk? (fast, slow,  good voice, bad breath? etc…)

e. What could come from this interaction? (friendship, job, work-out buddy, sex, headache? etc…)

6. Fun fact: During your next interaction with person x  you will engage them with a question or comment that contains information you learned in your previous interaction (ex: Hey, did you ever get that tattoo? How’s your mother? Your lecture on cerumen impaction was difficult to hear before lunch.)  + 2

I created it to improve my listening skills (not talking so much) and work on my issues with people pleasing. It is fun to play with yourself and others with ADHD.

Hope you try it.

 

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