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Well I can understand that finding out that there is a name for what is going on with you can be both daunting and a relief. I have read somewhere in the neighbourhood of 25000 books so I have never really had a problem with reading. But I am a speed reader and a lot of that requires the skill of active skimming. I procrastinate my time away so I didn’t really do homework, but my marks were okay except in math. Don’t do numbers. I read the pictures in instructions to get a hint of what to do when putting together in projects and then I get them done. If it doesn’t come out well then I go back and reread the instructions to find out what step I skipped over in my haste to finish.
Jen
Loved your last post. I am with your mother. I will never go to my grave wishing that I had cleaned more and I will never be my sister cleaning up the dishes off the table before we are even served. Give it a break. Somewhere in that neighbours background there is bound to be a trauma around cleanliness. Compulsive cleaners are usually Obsessive Compulsive and they are driven to this. It isn’t voluntary any more then our symptoms are. Just think how sad and lonely her life is, and how hard it is on the others in her home, or even visitors who feel inadequate next to her “imperfect” house. When her children move out they will probably either try to emulate her and fail or they will go the exact opposite and she will be unable to visit them and relax.
My home is lived in. We have children and pets and so we got rid of the carpet so that we weren’t forever obsessing over stains. My couch and desk are usually piled with books and papers. But the dishes and counters in the kitchen get washed, and you won’t contract any diseases from my washroom. We wear clean clothes and we eat healthy foods. Beyond that I don’t really care. I live by the rule of good enough and don’t stress too much. And with a couple of hours notice I can have the upstairs tidy enough for company to feel comfortable. I am a good wife, mother, friend and sometimes I can even get my father to admit daughter.
I also have to agree that this is a good website for being supported and supportive. We are all imperfect people and we can all use a helping hand once in a while. We also have all lived so we can give others the benefit of our experiences. The only two sureties in live are death and taxes, and the rest of the time we have to muddle through best we can. But none of us can do it alone. I was watching a study the other day on inmates in prison subjected to long periods of time in solitary confinement. They said that even with the most mentally independent of them that within a few years they begin to break down. They all pace and crave a human touch. Without this they begin to unravel mentally. They begin to be violent and lose control completely of their ability to control their own behaviour. They are begin to degrade and regress to child like behaviours.
This website is like a hand on your shoulder when you feel alone. Someone is making a connection and helping you feel that someone cares what happens to you. Thanks for being that person today.
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