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[harry1]

Andreaaaaaah,
Thank you for that, but, no one here is any more awesome than yourself.
I got into numbers and statistics for some unknown reason, and it’s sometimes eye-opening to think about.
Last time around, our President was elected by 51% of the vote. That seems colossal until you remember that LESS than 50% of the population voted. He was elected by about 20% when you see that.
The AVERAGE is, by definition, the total of the whole divided by the number of the whole.
If 25% of the population are overachievers, and the trailing 25% are real pond algae, then only 50%of the population is average.
If that “average is in control, they are telling ONE FULL HALF of the population that, good or bad, that half doesn’t count.
Mark Twain said there are three kinds of liars: there are Liars; thee are DAMNED Liars, and there are statistics.

The overachiever in a machine shop puts out more parts of better quality than the average worker. Let’s call it 90 out of 100, because nobody is perfect.
The underachiever produces 20; and the true average guy makes between 40 and 60.
The average guy wants the overachiever to cut back. Why? Because the overachiever makes him look bad, and the “trophy” will go to that overachiever.
Rather than go out and put himself through classes and look for advanced experience ON HIS OWN TIME in order to better his skills and abilities, he will instead gather the rest of his 50% crowd, and tell the company and union, and public in general that it’s UNFAIR that this person produces more. They have an “unfair Advantage of some sort, and they should hold back and produce less, so the “average” LOOKS (not is) better.
The company loses production, but the average wants higher wages this year because the workers are producing average results, but LOOKS as if they are doing their best, even though they have not sold the extra product that Could have been produced by the over achiever, and therefor have less profitability.

I put all of this here just to show ONE of the ways statistics and “averages” can get twisted around.

They give trophies to kids for standing on the ground as if they overcame gravity and spontaneously fly. That’s not nonsense.
That’s what my parents would have called criminal stupidity.
You are teaching that they will be rewarded if they DON’T try, and will be ignored or chastised if they DO !! Say: “entitlement”.
Tha ADDer may be in the upper, middle or lower brackets, depending on the severity of the individual (NOT AVERAGE!) affliction, but, if he wants something different, then he has to DO something different to get there, and asking Bob to do It isn’t going to help Him.
We are completely normal for people with add. Just as a veteran who suffers PTSD is , indeed, “Normal” for a person who has gone through all that.
I appreciate the providence that brought me to this site. A place where we build each other up, while trying to not let ourselves beat us down. Which, as you know , we are prone to do.
You have survived in the face of odds for this many years. That’s worth some self pride by itself.
You have your man who loves you. And did from the get-go. And unless you’re paying him for it, then, you too, have the love of someone who owes you nothing. And THAT Andreaaaaaah, is worth being proud of. He saw Something in you that was SO cool, It outweighed anything else.
You are alright in my book, so be proud of that too. I really don’t give that away for nothin.
Harry1

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