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Re: ADD, rage and cross cultural parenting

Re: ADD, rage and cross cultural parenting2012-09-03T17:30:39+00:00

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Assuming it doesn’t cross that line in your mind and isn’t abuse – she is learning that her anger can be channeled towards the people who love her, that her ADHD can be used as an excuse for bad behaviour and that it’s acceptable to threaten to abandon her children if they don’t do what she wants. She’s learning that anger can’t be controlled if she has ADHD. She’s also learning that it’s not abusive to treat people this way.

If you divorce, she may learn what you suggest. She may learn instead that, if she develops anger problems (and the longer she stays with someone who cannot control his temper, the more likely that is) she will have to learn how to manage it or risk pushing people away. That is probably the best lesson someone with anger management problems can learn – that they have a choice and that so do other people.