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Anonymous
One of my sons hardly speaks to me because of my cluttered house. It makes me so discouraged and sad. Another of my sons has undiagnosed ADHD and his life is a train wreck of botched relationships and drug abuse. He is very angry and needs therapy for that and needs to be diagnosed for ADHD and whatever else he has. I think he’s already been diagnosed with OCD which I also have. The same son that judges me, judges his brother, too, and just has no understand of either of our problems. He’s a professional person, too, but he’s just not interested enough to learn anything about what we’re dealing with.
We (other son and I) both are very depressed–yeah, we’ve both been diagnosed with that, as well, as I’m sure many of the rest of you have been. To make matters worse, we live in western WA, usa, where it rains about nine months of the year–the other three we have drought conditions.
Anyway, it’s just hard enough to have ADHD, and then to have other people who are supposed to “love” you, judge you, instead, without ever even trying to hear you out. Everything I say to this son, he replies, “You’re just using that as an excuse!!” He even said that when I told him the grief resulting from the death of another son eight years ago, made my clutter problem worse; he said I needed to “get over it!”. I wish I could get myself to a place where the judging by this clueless professional son of mine would not make me so sad and depressed.
Maybe I’ll feel better next time I visit here; maybe I’ll feel more upbeat. I have a good life; I’m retired, am a member of an art guild and a quilt guild, play in a ukelele band, and am part of a knitting group. And I have an understanding husband who feels our son is being very harsh with his judgement of me.
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