Re: ADHD Journeys and the Unbelievers

[Anonymous]

Allan, your message was just fine. If you can’t rant here, where can you? If you take the feds out of the equation, I’ve had a fairly similar trajectory through life, but I have managed to PRETEND enough that I’m normal and just like everyone else that I’ve managed a few of the usual milestones you’d expect by 42. But now I have no executive job to hide behind (I took redundancy and wrote a novel) I’m all alone with 3 children at home and I can’t pretend any more. I haven’t in the least minded being rubbish at any of the jobs I’ve done, but I do mind being rubbish at being a mum, so that’s why I’m very happy that I’ve come across this and I feel ready to face the fear.

When I do see my son’s future life, I do indeed see drugs, alcohol, many many girlfriends, and a pretty mad life. I know he’s going to be a bloody nightmare of a teenager unless I do something NOW. I also see that he has massive potential too – he’s ridiculously clever (half the problem) and is very creative. He also isn’t the least be scared of blatently lying so I’m hoping he’ll be a top level lawyer! Lol – only joking. He hates authority too much for that. I know that step number one to help him is to help me and finally sort my stupid head out!

Ipsofacto – got another reply from my therapist friend. She must have gone away and had a think. She’s coming round for a cuppa tea and a ‘chat’ on Friday. Should be interesting!

MonkeyBarb – that’s very sad about the child that you lost and of course you will never ‘get over it’. I wonder if having family therapy might not help if your sons would be willing? Maybe your angry son hasn’t properly grieved for his brother and that’s why he’s attacking you. Felt very sad when I read your post.

I’ve had a really good day so far. After feeling very glum over the weekend and drinking too much wine, I got out in the sunshine in the park with my youngest then did 20 minutes on the rower listening to metallica full blast and I’ve made an appointment to see a hynotherapist. Feeling much more positive since I’ve been on here.

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