Bobbie40N:I apologize for not commenting on your post earlier--I got distracted. 
I don't consider myself brave; I just can't seem to keep a secret to save my life. I was the kid who told people what I got them for Christmas because I couldn't stand their suspense. I was the kid who figured out how to carefully lift the tape off the end of my presents so I could see what was in there and then put the tape back in place. I don't know if I actually fooled anyone, but to my 10 year old mind, no one was the wiser. Sometimes I confide things in people I shouldn't because I tend to just blurt things out. I even talk to random strangers and butt in on their conversations. It's an annoying habit.
But thanks. If you don’t feel like telling them, there is absolutely nothing that says you have to. In other words, if telling them is only going to increase your anxiety levels and make you feel worse, why bother?
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Tonight it occurred to me why some people might not believe us when we tell them about our ADHD/ADD: As adults, some of us have developed the ability to appear okay on the outside, even though our brains are in turmoil. We had to do this in order to survive in our society. When I'm at work and feeling bored or antsy, the people at my office might see me staring at my computer and think, "She's really wrapped up in that spreadsheet", when in reality, I might be thinking about that guy I have a crush on or my dog or my last vacation or my next vacation or how boring is this spreadsheet or what shall I have for lunch/dinner/breakfast tomorrow morning--or all of those things at once. And then it occurs to me that it's almost 1pm and I haven't done anything. When you work a job that requires you to bill your clients by the hour for the work you do for them, it becomes a big deal. It always takes me several hours longer to do things than it does my colleagues. Some people think I'm just being thorough and not rushing through my work just to get finished. In reality, I'm waiting until I only have an hour to get it sent out so I can get the adrenaline pumping and go into panic mode. I seem to be most productive then. Isn't that weird?