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While ADD makes it all the more difficult, in terms of subtle – maybe it’s not so much an ADD thing as a male-female thing. Isn’t there sort of an old anecdote about how women phrase stuff versus men? Women with indirect hints and men to the point. I have had issues like this with my husband.
She: What are you doing?
He: why?
She: No reason just wondering. The kitchen garbage is really full and there’s lots of garbage in the garage and and it’s garbage day tomorrow.
He:huh?
Next night:
She: you didn’t take the garbage to the curb and now we have to wait till next week!!
He:Oh why didn’t you remind me to take out the garbage!
She: I did
He no you didn’t
SHe:yes, I told you the garbage is full and it was garbage day today…
He: If you want me to take out the garbage just tell me take out the garbage!
Ok so I’m no script writer but I’ve had that conversation more or less just like that!
I’m now am to the point when I ask him something I get to the point! I still try to soften the blow with a pre-able but that drives him crazy so I try to be as direct as possible. Of course why he couldn’t do it on his own initiative and I have to remind is another story….
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