Re: Name that feeling!

[Anonymous]

Carrie:

A couple things:

• Crown Royal is great–I’m a fan of McCallan. I do feel more, let’s say “reflective” when I drink scotch, so you’re not alone there.
• The tactile thing is something that comes with ADD. For a long time, I thought I was a bad husband because I couldn’t sleep touching my wife. Her hair would irritate me, or my skin would get clammy. I wanted to scream and she took it personally. Now that we know it’s my ADD, we take it in short bursts. Growing up, my family wasn’t big on the touching, but we all loved each other a lot–I think more than most families–and we knew it. Physical touch is important, but it’s how you treat people that matters more.
• sounds like you crafted a perfect storm for yourself there. You probably know this already, but stay on the meds and off the sauce, and this stuff will be easier to handle.
• Just because you’re paranoid, doesn’t mean you’re wrong. I don’t know her, but your sister may be looking to corrupt your husband, or she may just be lonely and need attention. If your folks were ADD and she isn’t, she may have grown up without physical contact and takes it personally when people don’t sit close to her. Or she may be a drama queen and like causing problems. You can kick her out of your house, you can ignore her, you can forgive her, but you cannot control what she does. You can only control how you deal with it.

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