Re: Successful ADDers annoy the h*ll out of me.

[billd]

Difference between ego and self esteem, IMO. Ego I hate, someone who is positive about themselves in a healthy way is very good.

Ego is an over-inflated thought of one’s self in my definition. It’s a distorted self-view – where one is self-important to a fault.

I take it as when one goes on insisting to others how great and wonderful they are, look at me, I’m very special, I’m better, I can do anything, listen – I’m not done talking to you – and you won’t leave until you agree I’m so wonderful and this is the best writing ever, you need to buy it, no one has ever done anything so great as this” – that to me is ego, and it’s disgusting and drives me the other direction. One can think highly of themselves, or be positive in a healthy way – but to need to convince others, even brag about it – uugh.

So maybe my definition doesn’t match others – but when it’s said someone has “an ego”, it’s negative to me as they are self-important to the point of being pushy about it. If you are proud of yourself – you don’t need to flaunt it – because you will be so comfortable in your own skin you wil have no need to flaunt it or tell others how great you are. However, those who need to constantly remind us of how great they are, and how much they can do – must not be very comfortable or sure of themselves – they need to get others to believe it as well.

One who knows they are important, good, or achievers are content to know it themselves. They won’t strive to tell others like a used car salesman.

>>ADD has nothing to do with writing music, poetry, painting, sketching, dance, telling stories, acting, being a comedian, doing quantum physics????<<

Right – because if it did, then only add people could do such things and do them well. Too many stats say otherwise.

You can be all of that and not have a trace of ADD (my oldest son, other non-related folks I know very well)

and you can have ADD and be very uncreative (me, as an example – I can follow patterns, but have ZERO creativity, same for another ADD person at work)

Does Stephen Hawking have ADD – he’s a genius, very smart, very creative, and a great writer – thus he MUST have ADD, right? (not that I agree with him on all things, but he’s well respected and well written)

I have ADD – and I’m not at all creative. I can’t even draw pinky on a match book cover.

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