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Hi, I’m back after a long while with more questions about my young adult relative.
As I wrote on page 1 of this thread, my relative went to my ADD coach for three sessions. He convinced her that his case is much milder than mine.
However, vanity aside, I believe I’ve been doing fairly well lately, with less procrastination and more accomplishment than ever. A lot of it has to do with working for myself.
In comparison, my relative is really floundering. He took a detour from non-ending community college to try living on his own in another state. About three months later, his grandparents drove a great distance to rescue him from an emotionally very dark place, and now he is living with them (temporarily, they hope). But as wonderful as they are, they consider him a problem and want him to snap out of it.
His positive points are: he’s smart; he’s great at technology; he loves cats and gardening; he’s well spoken. His obstacles include:
putting off learning to drive;
never having held a job more than a few weeks;
not tuning into other people’s feelings very well;
talking at great length and volume about topics no one cares about;
acting like an expert in areas he knows little about and discounting others’ input;
withdrawing temporarily or permanently when he doesn’t like a conversation;
never cleaning up or taking care of himself or others;
staying up all night playing networked video games and sleeping all day;
and having few in-person friends outside of the family.
So, my question is this: If he doesn’t realize how bad his ADHD is, and no one wants to consider whether he has Aspergers and/or executive functioning disorder, is he destined to be homeless? Is there a practical way to approach anyone close to his situation (father, grandparents) with useful information and advice? Are there places in central New Jersey that can help young adults with multiple issues like these? Are there places where he can get group help and/or group living?
Many thanks in advance.
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