Any others with ADD find it impossible to hold a "grudge"?

[Anonymous]

Is it possible that there are two types of grudges??? Like an emotional grudge and a mental grudge. I consider myself to be grudge free …mentally anyway. I don’t spend time on a daily basis thinking about how people have done me wrong and I don’t feel like a victim. BUTTTTT … occaisionally when I run into a person out of the blue, I relive the feelings and just want to avoid them (I consider this a emotional grudge?). I give people almost infinite chances until I become depleted of emotional energy, and at that point, I just avoid (and I usually forget the specifics of WHY I avoid them). 💡

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[catlover79]

For me it depends on what has happened.

Say for example someone has accused me of something I haven’t said or done or has otherwise wronged me for no reason then yes I tend to hold grudges and they can last a while, I have been known to end friendships over stuff like this and cut off all communication with that person for a long time if not forever..

If I know I’ve played a part in a fight or the ending of a friendship etc I tend to be more lenient and I am less likely to hold a grudge especially if I know I was in the wrong in some way and I’m always on the look out for ways to rectify any wrongs I have committed..

Sel

 

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[doctormikayla]

I may not hold a grudge against someone who hurt me, but I will avoid interacting with them forever.

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[shutterbug55]

I am with doctormikayla.

I don’t hold grudges, in the classic sense. If I have been wronged, or something someone does to me triggers my “wrongness” buttons, I will obsess about it, until that wrong thing is made right.

Every time that person talks to me, I will remind them about the wrong they need to make right. This is one of my Asperger’s things, and I am getting better about it. Letting go of that stuff is difficult.

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[catlover79]

Once I let a grudge go I refrain from reminding the person about their past mistakes or wrong doings, I move on with or witbout them depending on the situation.

 

Sel 🙂

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