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December 11, 2011 at 5:18 pm #104921
Rick, I always heard it was Depression was anger turned inward. So I got to thinking about this, and guilt is acutally a precursor to depression often. Thanks..I will amend the saying in my brain.. The guilt is what got me in the pit the last week or so. Its the recognizing it that helps to change it too.. It has taken me some days, but it is better.. thanks for the tidbit.
Yous guys ever coming to Montana to promote your book?
REPORT ABUSEDecember 12, 2011 at 3:02 pm #104922One should never feel guilty for things they could not or can not control.
Guilt should be a tool – learn from mistakes we regret.
Simple to say, harder to do………….. as an ADD father of an ADD son, there’s much I’d change, or HOPE I’d change, if I had another go at it.
FIDO – one to remember. (I guess maybe I’d better go write it down RIGHT NOW!)
REPORT ABUSEDecember 12, 2011 at 3:57 pm #104923I agree with Biild and would go on to say that if a person tries their best, then they have nothing about which they should feel guilty.
I regret that my son was not identified as ADHD at an early age, but I do not feel guilty about it. We did our best, and did not know. My wife, as a pediatric nurse, might have been expected to know, but she didn’t. I can’t blame her, nor would I want her to feel guilty.
(Now I suppose I’ve laid a big guilt trip on everyone who are thinking, “I didn’t do my best and boy do I feel guilty now.” Keep in mind that best is best “under the circumstances” which can’t always be 100%. We’re only human.)
REPORT ABUSEDecember 13, 2011 at 12:57 am #104924
AnonymousInactiveDecember 13, 2011 at 12:57 amPost count: 14413“Guilt is just anger turned inward, I think. The only way forward is to acknowledge what you’ve done, take responsibility, and move on.” I agree, how do you do it? but why do the flashbacks to multiple years old situations seemingly flair up out of nowhere? I think I am fighting PTSD and not ADD for this?. It seems to coincidental that my ADD sabotage’s me just after I think “wow, I am doing really well today”. l have become so aware of this I expect the other shoe to drop and end up blurting out something stupid that creates a stressful situation for everyone around me that I love….. I think I have wandered off this thread.
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