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  • Clive
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    Throughout my up and down journey of being diagnosed with add I have just realized that I was missing one positive thought process.

    I had to do the task’s or project’s for me and not for anybody else; I am not saying become selfish and only complete what you want to do.

    What I am saying is that through my life things were always being done because someone has bitched and complained because I have not done what I said I would do or taken far too long to do it.

    This caused a lot a lot of resentment on both sides of the equation.

    I was reacting to what I thought everybody else wanted me to do and did not realize that I wanted it to and if I didn’t we should discuss it, give and take is always good in any relationship.

    I think all ADDers have that screw that attitude with authority (I know I do) but sometime we have let it go and go with the flow.

    I have reached this conclusion after seeing a councillor, talking is a great healer and I have changed my prescription.

    It seems to be working so far; I will let you know how it is going.

    Cheers

    Clive

    ipsofacto
    Member

    That’s spot on for me. I have to do something because I want to do it, not because I’ve been told to do it. This can be very difficult at work. I think I get over this by owning the task. I make it mine, and I make it personal (as in the tough movie hero saying, “this ain’t business no more, it’s personal’). It was much easier when I had my own business, but I can still make it feel that way most of the time. The problem comes when someone tries to micro-manage me, or when the task is a wast of time/illogical.

    At home my wife now knows, if she wants things done, not to write me a list, but wait for me to put it on my to do list.

    Bill
    Member

    This rings true for me as well. At the same time, it can be a very powerful motivator for me if I know that what I am doing will actually help someone else. Curiouser and curiouser.

    Clive
    Member

    The one thing i am now doing is self talk , like theres a parrot on my shoulder wispering ” dont watch TV right now do this .

    It helps a Lot .

    Good news last we received our full US patent on the product we designed , only took 5 years .

    Clive

    trashman
    Member

    congrats, Clive glad to see you are still plugging along!!

    Anonymous
    Inactive

    I applaud your thinking Clive……I have always been a “Can Do” type…..the minuet somebody says it can’t be done….I’m there doing it…and doing it well!!! Don’t we just love a challenge…..

    Toofat

    ashockley55
    Participant

    Bill – that’s a sweet attitude to have – that helping others motivates you.

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