FRUSTRATION

[Anonymous]

OKAY THE LAST TWO WEEKS IVE BEEN TRYING TO ORGANIZE MYSELF TRUE

WHAT IS GOING ON WELL I FEEL LIKE ITS A FLOP THE OTHER DAY I REALIZE AND WAS TOLD BY MY FAMILY I AM JUST MAKING THINGS COMPLICATED

I AM TO THE POINT I FEEL LIKE THROWING IN THE TOWEL ON ORGANIZATION

I NEED TO PURCHASE A NEW LAPTOP COMPUTER

I WAS THINKING DO I GET A BLACK BERRY OR PALM OR IPHONE

I LEARN THAT THERE IS AN ELECTRONIC ORGANIZER DO I BUY IT NO ITS ANOTHER GADGET I;M TOLD TO GET A NET BOOK WITH MY LAPTOP SO I DO NOT HAVE TO RUN AROUND WITH MY LAP TOP HA OKAY WELL NO I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY AND I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY FOR HUGE BILLS I READ A DISSATISFACTION RATE WITH CERTAIN CELLPHONES SOME ARTICLE WROTE SAYING THAT X AMOUNT OF USERS FOR BRAND X WOULD REFFER THERE FRIENDS TO BRAND Y DUE TO THE DISAPOINTMENT WITH BRAND X HMMM I THINK GREAT I DO NOT KONW STILL REASEARCHING AND STILL TRYING MY WIFE TELLS ME TO STOP AND SHE WILL HELP ME OKAY BUT SHE MAY THINK THAT MY WAY THE ADD WAY IS A LITTLE CRAZY EX PEOPLE WITH ADD MAYBE COLOR CODE THINGS I DO NT KNOW ANYWAYS IT DOES NOT MATTER MY POINT IS THAT I AM NOT ORGANIZED AT ALL AND I AM TRYING AND I AM GETTING NO WHERE BECAUSE IT FEELS COMPLICATED AND HARD FOR ME TO BE HONEST WITH YOU AND I AM FRUSTRATED MY WIFE SEES MEE WORKING SO HARD AND PUTTING TONNES OF ENERGY INTO IT WHICH IS GREAT BUT I FEEL LIKE I AM ACCOMPLISHING NOTHING I FEEL LIKE I AM GOING TO GIVE UP BREATHE AND LET IT GO AND ONCE AGAIN ACCEPT THAT OTHERS HAVE TO ACCEPT AND UNDERSTAND ME AND MY QUIRKS

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[Mica]

Shadow – orgaization, unfortunately, is not an event but rather a process – and that’s the hard part. Dr. J. talkes about not being able to get the last 25% of a job done – and that’s death as far as organizing is concerned. I’m constantly trying to get my papers organized but I only get them sorted, I leave it to do something else, and before I get them put away they get mixed up in another pile again – AGHHH!

The one thing that I understand from your post is that you “need to purchase a new laptop computer”. So maybe start with that. I can really realate to getting bogged down when trying to reasearch ALL the options that are out there. I’d be so afraid of making a mistake and getting the wrong thing that I’d end up getting nothing. Family vacations just didn’t happen because I’d start trying to nail down every variable, inevitably get too confused and that would be that – hours wasted with nothing to show for it – again!

One thing that has worked for me is realizing that I’m not, and can’t be an expert on everything. Learning to use the knowlege of other people has been great. To use my vacation example – I now pay the extra money (like $70) and use a travel agent for most things. No booking it myself online because it never happens. So…Find a store with good sales people (ask around, people will have referrals) and then commit yourself to taking their advice. You might pay a bit extra (that was a hard one for me to adjust to) or have an occasional regret but I’ve found that it’s worth it in terms of time saved and peace of mind.

The only other orgaization advice that I have for you is the mantra “crap in pretty boxes is still crap”. Get rid of as much as you possibly can – that’s always the first step!

Good luck.

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[Clive]

Hi , I understand and agree completely , i have been to http://www.help4adhd.org and down loaded printed the Time Management Learning to use a Day Planner .

Its helping to keep me on track .

Cheers

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