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My choice to describe my behaviour as spying on woman  probably was my way to try and attract more readers and get a quicker response to my dilemma.

I  am concerned whether my disclosure might lead people to perceive me as some kind of immature sex-obsessed loser. I hope people will not read my post in a judgmental way but rather will appreciate my authentic cry for help for a most frustrating obsession and/or symptom.

I suspect my obsession with constantly thinking and secretly ogling woman could be a symptom of my ADD. This behaviour certainly has caused me to feel a lot of shame just like many other aspects of my ADD.

Regardless of why I maintain this constant distraction in my head,  I realize the real issue is my inability or my unwillingness to live in the present moment.

When I go to my mindfulness retreats, we practice something called custody of the eyes. n I  need to apply this principal to my daily living, My mindfulness practice is probably the answer I was looking for when I posted this query about my obsessive sexual fantasies with strangers.   Perhaps this is really all about me learning to truly appreciate what I have as opposed to longing for what I don’t have?

 

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Thanks Black Dog and larynxa for your responses. I appreciate all this advice and I will continue reading on the subject to enhance my discussion with the doc.

 

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WOW – thanks for sharing your observations about this genre of music. I can totally relate. I love to play my hand-drums and I find that I often create awesome trance feelings. When I attend drum circles, I inevitable lead the group into trance like states of groove.

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@Domadhd – nice response – very kind of you to take the time to explore this question with me! Thanks so much. Your thoughts and sharing of your experience are very helpful.  D. Roy

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