[hppyfs]

Hi there,

I never had the same experience you had, my daughter got diagnosed last year and when I tried to find out more about ADD in girls I discovered that pretty much everything applied to me as well.

That said, as a mom I think you know your child best. I know well enough that the behaviours the children show at school can differ tremendously at home. So the teachers and other professionals at school might not see what we deal with daily at home.
At school my daughter does well, her test scores are great and don’t reflect the struggles I notice. She has a hard time with reading and writing (we are still looking into the possibility of dyslexia). Her teacher last year told her she just needs to read more, write more, practise more and get over her shyness.
They didn’t see the anxiety and frustration with reading/writing that I get at home. My girl is definitely not shy, but shuts down when she gets overwhelmed.
Soon I will go to school and push for an IEP (individualized education plan). Not because she is not doing well, but because I want her to get the best opportunity to shine. I don’t want to wait until her grades drop, until there IS a problem and she’s behind.

Any way, long story…but what I am saying is: if you are convinced your daughter has ADD and will benefit from a diagnosis DON’T GIVE UP.  Write a list of things that you notice at home with your daughter. Make your own questionaire for the teacher, so the teacher may observe in a class room setting. If the school is not willing to help more at this time, maybe look for help or an assessment privately.
I would definitely not give up, eventhough finding the right people to help is hard and takes time. Your girl deserves it ! And I think you can be the very best advocate she can ever have, because you know exactly where she’s coming from. You an explain the way she thinks, acts and feels to others (teachers, doctors etc), because you know from experience.

Take Care,
K.

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I googled ‘double tasking’, found it on ImpactADHD (ofcourse 😉 )  Sounds good, I realized I’ve unintentionally done this before, but I am definitely going to do this intentionally more often.

I am also going to plan in more time for myself. Tomorrow actually happened by ‘accident’. The kids are going to visit their grandparents and that gives me the whole afternoon to myself. I’ll make sure my kobo is fully charged haha

 

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@tinwi

My daughter sees a pediatrician specialized in ADD and Learning Disabilities. So far we have started with medication, but I know he also mentioned therapy if needed later on, we are still in the discovery/exploring-process…(if you know what I mean).
If the medication that your daughter is using is not helping her much, maybe it’s time to go back to the dr. and see if there is other medication that will work.

I am sure your daughter feels just as frustrated as you do when she forgets things and loses points. She is 11 you said, maybe she herself has some great ideas that help her remember things. Get an erasable white board hang it right by the front door to write things-not-to-forget on. I have a block of sticky notes right on my table as well 🙂 Tell her that you guys can work together to make things better for her.
And I am sure you do this already, but praise her lots !

Take care !

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Good morning…I have switched to coffee now. Okay so slowly my eyes are opening, in more than one way I guess. Because one thing that I do feel I need is more time just for myself, no kids around, no commitments, no housework.
It’s something I have even said out loud many times, but don’t do anything to accomplish this.

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Thanks for your reply…

Taking my breaths. Going to have a nice hot cup of cocoa and read my book. I love reading and I love doing karate (I know, that’s 2 things that I really do it for me).

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I am the single ADD mom of a ADD daughter (8) and non-ADD son (10).
A lot of times I feel overwhelmed and pressured when it comes to taking care of my children. There are so many things that seems to be expected by teachers, doctors, ‘society’….
Ofcourse there is homework (my daughter needs my help with this and it takes quite some time), then both kids ‘should’ read about 20 min. every day (my son doesn’t like it, my daughter has a hard time with it, she might have dyslexia as well).  Then there are computer programs that the school is suggesting the kids use to help them with math and reading. My daughters ADD-dr. told us to typ a lot using the computer, to write stories. We also do karate about 4 times a week, which takes up at least an hour every time we go.
I also need to get them to bed on time so they won’t be too tired the next day. I need to make sure I have healthy, homecooked food for them to eat (yes, keeping an eye on the food guidelines).

I work at home, have a home daycare. I work till 6:30 every day. My daughter usually wants to wait till then to do her homework, so the noise of the other children doesn’t bother her, but by then her meds are wearing off and she gets easily frustrated and emotional (which in turn sets me off too).
How do I fit it all in? How do I get over the guilt feeling when something doesn’t get done (and I’m not even talking about doing my own stuff…dishes, cleaning, folding laundry).

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