[Kbens74]

One room might be too much to start with if you’re still feeling overwhelmed. Maybe try one BOX at a time, or one corner, or set a 30 minute timer and only do that 30 minutes after work each day.

The other thing to do is get a cleaning buddy to come help. Maybe instead of tackling it after work when you’re tired get a friend to come on Saturday, put on a pot of coffee and do that one room, when you’re done the one room you go out for a treat together (which could be an ice cream or hitting the garden center or whatever turns your crank as a treat with a friend 🙂 ) Pick a different room the next week, or maybe help them with some job at their house the next week. It doesn’t feel as much like you’re *imposing* for help if you reciprocate (a friend and I do this a lot! She’ll help me tackle the kitchen then I help her take a load of yard waste to the dump) many hands make light the work 🙂

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[Kbens74]

I’m kind of surprised your pediatrician doesn’t simply require you to visit regularly… Ours expects to see us in his office roughly twice a year, and my daughters medication needs adjusting pretty much every year. She’s 14 now and this spring we’re noticing that there’s some trouble in school and with basic chores again so she’s probably due for a medication adjustment at least. We were warned that she may need to switch to a different medication soon as effectiveness can wane into the teen years. I’m also ADD, and as an adult my medication has been the same for several years and continues to be effective, so constant monitoring and adjustment isn’t forever, but it’s pretty typical for any growing kid. You wouldn’t expect your son to wear the same size shoes for over a year, he outgrows them, why would the same dosage of medication still fit?

I wish I could tell you something that would help your husband, frustrated and angry are hallmarks of depression which is pretty typical of untreated ADD, if he absolutely refuses to take his medication could you get him to exercise? I know from experience that high intensity type exercise like interval training or kickboxing or “bootcamp” type classes can make a BIG positive impact and a person with ADD can function pretty well without medication if they do that *regularly* I’m talking 3x a week kind of regularly… I didn’t have to go on medication until after quitting kickboxing which I had done for 8 years… extenuating circumstances didn’t allow me to continue and within a few months of quitting kickboxing I was a basket case. The exercise is actually better than any of the meds I’ve been on, if you can get hubby to commit to it…

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