My temper can flare pretty quickly.
I find I am easily sucked into responding to situations, and my typical response is to get defensive, and then I escalate pretty quickly.
Find what works for you – perhaps walking away, or making a mental note that when you feel a little warm faced / (or whatever pre-trigger you identify) that you have an action plan to act on.
To be honest, it doesn’t always work, even whilst being cognizant of it as I have put into place a plan for myself.
If it is a loved one, try to explain your love for them, your care for them – and your desire to not have the behavior.
It may also help if you have a relationship with that person, to ask that they signal / cue you in to when you are heating up a bit.
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This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by nerdyguy87.
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