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  • #101738

    Anonymous
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    Hi!

    New member:) Happy to be here! 43-female-Mom-diagnosed ADHDcombined-last year.

    My son=9 years old=diagnosed 3 years ago:combined type.

    Husband=diagnosed 2 years ago=combined type.

    Found site cuz watched ADD+Loving it!

    LUVED movie. Laughed. Cried.

    Got PERFECT score on EVERY sub test of virtual ADD test on site. 9/9 across the board. IMPRESSED?

    VERY restless during test……impatient…….who thinks pace of test was intentional? Feel your ADD?

    Usually I write like I talk=A LOT!

    No more!

    Brief shots of information from now on.

    Did you make it through?

    Thanks=for ur ADD talk.

    Helpful :)

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    #101739

    Hans
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    After watching ADD and loving it my wife and I had a long conversation. Durring the program I saw myself. I looked at my personal traits and how ADD explained them.

    In the past-premeds

    I was always late for the start of meetings. I remembered if I got there early I would worry/anxiety about being in the wrong place at the wrong time. My ADD compensation-be late…if the other participant were there is was in the right place..no stress/anxiety.

    A second trait for me was the interuption of conversations—I had to speak. ADD compensation for not being able to hold a thought.

    This is just two out of hundreds of examples in my life.

    After a long self critical examination with my wife I set up the Dr’s visit. The Dr asked “Why do you think you have ADD/ADHD”

    I explained how I watched the program and I fit perfectly with my personality traits.

    As he gave me a four page interview. I did not try to convince the DR of anything. I just told it the way it was(fine critical detail and no generalities). I had 67 years of experience to draw on.. He is the expert.

    After two one hour interviews with me and my wife both present. He diagnosed ADD/ADHD. He gave me a perscription for 5mg of Ritalin and asked me to come back in 3 days.

    When he asked what had happened I replied “the light have been turned.” Under medicine I can scan a room while just walking thru it. If I need an Item I can remember where it was and walk get it. This was impossible without the medicine.

    I also explained to the DR. that I could tell when the medicine started to take affect and when it stopped. If I could tell the difference the medication must be working.

    But most of all my wife and friends saw the possitive change right away I could listen and talk in a social setting without interrupting.

    This diagnosis and medication have truley given me my golden years. Previous to this I can only remember two days where I did not have any worries/stress or concerns on my mind.. yes 67 years and only two days.. This has changed now.

    I thank God for Program and the people who made it.

    I thank my wife for sticking by my side during some very difficult days in the past. Our mariage is much better and stronger now that we both understand ADD/ADHD.

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    #101740

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    Hans, welcome!

    JaneFC from post above.

    Beautiful story! Amazing to hear! U tried medication after 67 years of living ADD.

    So many benefits:)

    Are you still taking 5 mg?

    Aprreciated ur share.

    I found out at age 42.

    Remember to set your clocks……..FORWARD 2night.

    My Mom reminded me…….TWICE. …….so I will remind all.

    But, will I remember

    when it COUNTS? :?

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    #101741

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    I’m new here as well…seems like a lot of us have the same issues.

    As for the reading issue, it wasn’t until I was diagnosed ADD (but I think I’m ADHD) that I realized I read everything twice before I “get it”. I used to love reading books but I can’t stay focused long enough to read a whole book anymore. It makes me feel stupid or “less than” because most of my coworkers and friends read volumes. My (2nd) ex-husband could read a book every 2 days.

    I am reduced to self help books. That way I can read only the chapters I need to read and can jump around.

    I have been in healthcare since 1987.

    The good news is that I am awesome at what I do and I love it.

    I’m intelligent and good at critical thinking and I am very sensitive and compassionate. I am quick-witted and funny.

    But I talk too much, too loud and I interrupt.

    Multi-tasking is nearly impossible. You want me to read, write and listen??? Are you kidding???

    My coworkers get impatient with me because they feel that I am not paying attention.

    My superiors trust and depend on me, but I don’t always follow through with paperwork.

    I am always late! For everything!!! Yes, I still get suspended for chronic tardies.

    I have no “systems” for anything. I don’t do anything the same way twice.

    I don’t know where things belong. How many junk drawers can one house have? And sock drawers…if I even have folded socks.

    I wash lots of laundry but hate to fold…so i keep throwing them back in the dryer until the wrinkles come out.

    What am supposed to do with all of the mail????? Where does it go after you open it?

    Balancing a checkbook? Seriously? It’s easier to pay the NSF fees…to the tune of 10,000.00 in 2009. Yes it’s true.

    All of my bills are late so I pay late fees for everything.

    I don’t even know where my bills are! Stuff gets shut off a lot around here. That is a real drag.

    I can’t remember any passwords to my online accounts so I have to reset them every time I sign on.

    Sure, I can write them down but then I have to remember where I put that piece of paper.

    When I see it in writing, I can’t decide if I should laugh or cry. I usually do both.

    Stimulants haven’t really worked for me and no one has really showed any interest in my symptoms so they don’t keep trying.

    I also have anxiety and the psych says that stimulants can trigger anxiety. Basically, my ADHD isn’t being treated right now.

    But my depression, arthritis, and adult acne are being handled with loads of meds.

    I’m actually tired of taking meds…

    Thanks for reading my vent

    ;)

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    #101742

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    wait, what- the clocks change tomorrow? DAMNIT! thankyou SOOOO much for telling me, Jane FC. they should give everyone a couple of mum-alerts’ before they do that kinda stuff- it’s unfair to… i don’t know…. do it so unexpectedly ….at the same time of year every year…. mumble mumble don’t know how they expect me to know what day it was yesterday, let alone when i lost an hour last year…. *hides sheepishly* :D my mum warned me a few weeks ago that they’d be changing soon in the UK- apparently short term storage was a bit full in the brain that week cos i clearly forgot to find out when they’d be changing here. :(

    brentitude- you’re messing with my denial talking about long posts like that. *lalalalalalalala*. not listening. :P i’m never gonna master succinctness. i WISH i could not write essay answers. :( the only reason this post is so short is that i didn’t have ANYTHING meaningful to contribute- even doing that took me 2 paragraphs. :P

    beignet- can you tell your bank to change your bills to direct debit ones (so they automatically go out when your pay goes in)… of course you’d have to be organised enough to actually talk to the bank about that, but it can be handy. :D if you’re tired of meds you MUST be taking accutane for your skin- i got so tired of crunchy peely skin that blistered if i so much as looked at it- but it’d take it again any day though now i’m off it- i’m sick of washing my greasy hair every day again instead now. :P

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    #101743

    alfadog67
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    Yes, I do the stereograms, not always fast though. I think they’re neat. I wonder when they will come out in movies.

    Sometimes the payoff isn’t worth the effort… For instance you spend 2 minutes finding the sweet spot on a stereogram, only to find a donut or a golf ball.

    A friend of mine has one across from his toilet. He still “seen” it though.

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    #101744

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    Hi All!

    Glad “Heads Up” on time change helped……….YOU.

    3 ADHDers-In my home-cud NOT figure what real time was.

    Had to text-my patient-non ADHD-GREAT friend-for NEW time.

    Husband-1 hour late-to work:(

    FANTASTIC=to be in touch with so many WONDERFUL=ADHDers!

    Luv the contact

    Beignet: Should you search for a new Doctor to trouble shoot and problem solve=new medication?

    Hate to think of=hard time=untreated ADHD!

    In ur 5 min. late post=I am chronically late

    Time management=sucks!

    Late now=for son’s drum lesson :(

    BUT=AM ALSO=Behavior Specialist

    Can train self=even ADHD self=to do it=Be on time:)

    IDEAS:

    1) pick small first step: take average minutes late to ONE routine appointment/responsibility i.e., work in the AM.

    2) first goal=3/5 days reduce average late minutes by 5.

    3) second goal=4/5 ” “

    4) third goal=5/5 ” “

    5) fourth goal=3/5 days reduce average late minutes by 7.

    6) plug in same sequence from above, until on time each day.

    7) motivate on time behavior by=giving self=something fantastic=each on time day=each week goal met

    8) tell someone=be accountable

    9) have clocks visible=EVERYWHERE

    10) break down steps=each step=for getting out of house in AM=starting with wake up=allot allowed time to each=to make work on time

    11) have list of each step=place allowed time next to step=with goal time for completion=mark off=when step completed=in time

    12) place visual reminders=all over=on bathroom mirror=fridge=clock=door=etc.

    13) once on time=for one month=AM work arrival=add next on time goal=new goal=i.e., bed on time=or when meeting friends.

    14) start from beginning with it=average late minutes=reduce by 5=3/5 or some number=that will allow=wiggle room=not perfect at first.

    15) break it all down=reminders visible=something special=for you=for on time=goal met.

    16) keep OTHER person=to whom u r accountable.

    WOW! great idea=I think I will try it.

    Gotta fly=off to make drum lesson………5 minutes reduced lateness for me today :)

    AWESOME 2 chat!

    Thanks 4 being out there!

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    #101745

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    so the clocks changed last night … not sunday night as i erroneously assumed. *broods*

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    #101746

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    Clocks changed=Last Night!

    Anyone notice=IRONY=I am Behavior Specialist=ADHDer=Husband+Son=ADHD 2

    :)

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    #101747

    Gryffindork
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    Beignet, I loved your rant.

    I can’t get through an entire book, either, so I read several books at the same time. Whatever I feel like reading at the moment. One nice thing about ADD, since I can never remember a mystery, I can read them more than once and still be surprised!

    You are not stupid. You don’t even have a “disorder”. Your brain is just wired differently than the plodding masses.

    Smart phones are God’s gift to ADD’ers. Alarms & reminders for everything. I have non-ADD friends help me figure out a new phone, so I don’t have to read that tedious manual.

    Screw the laundry if you hate folding. Hang it over the back of a chair. Or on hangers. I don’t fold my socks or underwear. Undies get dumped in one drawer, socks in another. They’re clean, that’s good enough for me.

    Passwords: I am hopeless with pieces of paper. You have to staple them to me or they disappear in an instant

    Write your passwords on masking tape with a permanent marker. Stick them to the underside of your keyboard on the computer. DON’T put the one for your online banking under there. That one, you’re going to make yourself remember. ANYBODY can remember ONE password. The rest are under your keyboard. You don’t have to remember them.

    There are lots of different meds. Try one. If it doesn’t help, try something else. I can’t take stimulants. Bupropion helps me focus somewhat, but I’m still a little disorganized. So, I’m not perfect. Sue me.

    To make myself functional, I have lists of things to do, which are written & kept in a 3-ring binder, which is an obnoxious color, so that I see it every day. It sits on the counter where I keep my keys. I don’t do the lists from memory. I open that obnoxiously-colored book, read the lists, and do the things on them. This is hard to do. I swear it’s physically painful to follow a routine, so I’ve made mine very basic. Here’s most of the things I do:

    Before I go to bed:

    Make my lunch for the next day.

    Wash the dishes.

    Pick my clothes for the next day.

    Check my smart phone for appointments, etc. Write them on a post it, and stick the post it on my bag. Since post its tend to fall off, I sometimes use wooden clothes pins, the kind with the spring, to stick the notes on my bag. A brightly colored pom pom glued on helps.

    Plug my phone in to charge it.

    That’s 5 things: 30 minutes, tops

    When I get up:

    Make my bed.

    Shower & put on my clothes.

    Take meds & vitamins

    Eat breakfast

    Check my smart phone for appointments, etc. before I put the phone in my bag.

    Take my lunch out of the fridge & put it into the bag.

    These are all things the majority of the people in the world can do without reminders. I have to have reminders. My phone helps, my obnoxiously-colored binder helps,.

    My smart phone & computer figured out the time change for me. I didn’t have to remember.

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    #101748

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    I luv using obnoxious colors

    to help me remember

    Painful to do routines

    for me

    as you mention

    With medication

    I have been able to get through the things u list above

    But I can’t alwasy do the dishes

    Amazing to know the pain and discomfort these BASIC routines are

    for my fellow ADHD “Peeps”

    I guess I need a Smart Phone

    Mine did NOT re-set to new time…………………..

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    #101749

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    Gryffindork: you MAKE your bed?! ….screw that, it’s gonna get unmade again that night when i get back into it. mine just lies in a big sprawling jumble until bedtime. i have no shame. some sections of it enjoy the fresh air, i expect. :P :D

    i also don’t iron except for weddings, funerals, and job interveiws. thats IT. if something is wrinkly it either goes into the bathroom on a hanger when i have a shower (steams unwrinkled), or stays wrinkly (cos it’s gonna either unwrinkle, or get wrinklier once i’m wearing it). if it’s uberwrinkled, i pretend thats the look i was going for in the first place. its a fashion concept. :D

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    #101750

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    I LOVE YOU PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

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    #101751

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    I don’t make my bed unless company is coming:) And of course if company IS coming they had better let me know a day in advance or I’m not answering the door!!!

    So Gryf…you’re saying I have to do stuff BEFORE I go to bed???? That would require a planned bedtime…UGH!!!!! And um…washing dishes? Isn’t that why God invented kids? I earn the money, buy the groceries and cook dinner. Isn’t that enough?

    And if I am to do anything on a routine basis when I wake up, that would require waking up…God forbid…early!!!! Double UGH!!!!

    I love the suggestions about putting my passwords on the bottom of my keyboard, and the obnoxious colored notebook.

    I do already have several notebooks, notepads, post its, and a Franklin Organizer…but where did I put them???

    I have sworn that I would never buy a Smart Phone cuz I don’t want to buy into the hype…I see people with phones coming out of their ears everywhere I go. I may have to think about it.

    I am considering doing all of my bills through my bank or auto payments…just have to sit down and do it.

    I can not answer anything in one word. Ever. It’s not in my genes.

    Drives my emotionally unavailable bf crazy. (That’s another thread.)

    I like laughing about this stuff with those that really understand. For some reason if a non-ADDer makes the same suggestions I want to bite their heads off. Like they are judging…

    Don’t y’all hate the word JUST?????

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    #101752

    alfadog67
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    My wife (enabler) reads directions and paraphrases to me.

    Tonight we did the new power sprayer. I asked her, “Which one of these 4 spray nozzles has the highest volume?” She scanned the book for a while, only to realize that it didn’t contain that information. I love her so much!

    I went to buy dog food today, and asked her which one to get… She replied “Chicken”, and after a long blank stare, she then reiterated, “The red one”. Same one we’ve been buying for several years, incidentally.

    I make wrong turns frequently, too. I have lived at the same house for 3 years and change, and I will pass it by like it’s invisible on occasion. I’ve always done that. When they came out with GPS, I thought I was saved, but my wife has frequent arguments and disagreements with the GPS, so now I have to choose sides.

    Since the movie, “ADD and Loving It”, I’ve used the excuse, “I’ve just got to burn that DVD real quick” to my wife when we’re about to be late. We’ve only had 3 appointments since we saw the movie, but I’ve used the “DVD” comment all 3 times.

    My wife is a shrink – I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not – but she’s been calling me “ADD” since forever. I thought she was yanking my chain since we aren’t allowed to psychoanalyze each other.

    I’ve noticed that my typing has started to demonstrate a sort-of “dyslexic” style over the past couple of years. I’m certainly not dyslexic, but my attention to detail has diminished for some reason, and this has made for some interesting days at the office. Brentitude mentioned above about reading books backwards as a child – I have been phonetically saying sentences backwards since I was a child. Somebody will say a sentence and I’ll spell it in my head backwards, and then speak the backwards sentence as it might sound were it spelled that way. I wonder how much this exercise has caused my “dyslexic” issues.

    I interrupt people, and because of Beignet’s comments above, I now realize it’s because if I don’t interrupt, I’ll forget what my point was. Thanks Beignet!

    Ok, I’ve had a rant now, so I officially feel as if I have broken in my new account. I’m worried sick about hitting the “Send” button.

    I would have to be in the right mood to read a post as long as this one. This note took about 45 minutes to write, and I’m doing absolutely nothing else.

    Also, I time and count everything. Dna I naem GNIHTYREVE!

    I’m probably watching this thread and slamming the “refresh” button.

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