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I’ve just started Soylent.  I love it.

Before, I was eating a proper breakfast every day but then I wasn’t organized enough to make a proper lunch and would go buy lunch every day.  Then I often stay late at work (because everything takes me that much longer than my colleagues) and when I get home I’m just not really into making dinner.  Sometimes I’d go without, sometimes I’d eat crappy food, sometimes I’d get around to doing a proper dinner but not until 9:30 at night.  The long and short of it is that I knew proper nutrition was important not just for overall health but also ADD but I wasn’t doing it (partly because of the ADD).
Anyway, now I bought the stuff, it’s completely nutritionally balanced, I can make a pitcher that lasts me over a day and I always have a healthy meal handy.  The best part is that I can cook when I want to and when I’m excited about it.

Anyway, I’m not a shill for the company and there are many alternatives but for me a complete meal replacement has been a godsend both organizationally and nutritionally.

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Hi,

The diagnosis for me was a tool to help understand some things about myself.  I also never found that medication helped but I hear that trying different medications can work for some people where one had no effect or a negative effect.

Diagnosis and medication are two tools of many.  All of the tools are about solving the problems you’re having and not about “curing” adhd.  Whether or not you agree with the diagnosis, it might be a good place to start looking at what tools can help you.

For me writing lists helped.  I sometimes just pull everything out my head and put it on paper in no particular order and then order things out and put them back in so to speak.

I always have difficulty getting down to a task and organizing my time but it slowly gets easier (very, very slowly).  I was diagnosed 15 years ago and it still sometimes feels like it doesn’t fit.

If they’ve given you medication and nothing else to help you it’s really not going to ease the problems you’re facing.

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I’m currently working with my BF to discuss how we communicate.  He says he’s “telling me” things and I have to keep clarifying that I need words.  I can’t function on gestures and sighs and meaningful glances.  We’ve tried to have some discussions around what kind of things we like to do to show love and what kinds of things we need in order to feel loved.

For me, saying “do you want to have sex” is easier than trying to figure anything else out.  I can’t flirt or read body language.  I find it much easier to have a verbal advance rebutted (“Not right now”, “I have other things on my mind”, “I’m not in the mood” etc.).  When I try to be physical and the other person isn’t interested I can’t pick up those cues until they’re really strong and then I feel completely worthless and rejected.

So yeah, in case that’s helpful, explicit verbal communication is the only thing that works for me.

Funny story:  With a friend of mine that I used to date, the first time I was over at his house I was interested in starting something but I didn’t know how.  I just started talking a lot about everything and walking around his apartment pointing out neat things and he followed me.  Then when I couldn’t figure it out anymore I said “you look like you want to kiss me” and he did.  The funny thing was that I was really surprised because I actually was just expecting him to answer with words.

Also though, he found my habit of blurting out strange and funny things when we were in the middle of being intimate both frustrating as it killed the mood for him and hilarious.

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