As Still a Newby, the last few months have been an explosion of emotion from just finding out I’m not alone in this, and I’m not really insane. And I have gone on, obviously.
I’m probably considered “successful”. I make good money, I’ve got two great kids, I don’t have more debt than I can handle, I’ve been in my job for ten years. I was just diagnosed a month or so ago after years trying to control depression and anxiety. My daughter’s ADHD was caught about two years ago, and when my sister was diagnosed a few months back, that was my lightbulb moment that maybe there was something else going on with me (Did anyone else think that having a redbull to help you sleep was completely normal?).
The plain fact is that I got lucky. I had a kid at 16 and dropped out of high school. I got an entry level job a few years later in a tech support department I had no qualifications for (family friend knew I was good with computers, figured I could answer the phone without screwing up too hard). Turns out, having a new and different problem to work on every 20 minutes was a good fit for me and I got promoted a few times.
If not for that lucky break I would most definitely be working for minimum wage and struggling to get by. I think it’s important to recognize luck when it comes to us. I do work hard and I am good at what I do, but without lucking into that job ten years ago I don’t know how I could have managed. I know a lot of people who work hard and have university degrees that work a cash register because life hasn’t given them the right opportunities.dancraig1791Participant
My thought for today…..actually my thought for yesterday but I got distracted by something. Anyway…As much as Astronauts are worthy of great admiration for having “The right stuff” and having the trust and confidence to control billions of dollars worth of spacecraft, an Astronaut doesn’t even go to the toilet without following a check list. Make a plan that doesn’t include crashing the ship and stick to it ’til it’s done. I hope someone out there can follow my sage advice, ’cause I sure can’t.shiloh15Participant
It makes me very sad that people really hate successful people with ADD or ADHD. I am one of those successful people that you are talking about and let me tell you NOTHING comes easy. I am still in college and I have been in college for 4 years trying to get my Associates Degree. I work hard every day all day at my job and I still struggle every day but I don’t let that stop me. It may slow me down but i refuse to let it stop me from being successful. I go home and cry at least once a week and my selfesteem is way down but i get up the next day and try my best. Some days my best is not good enough it seems like. I have had to call in because I could not do my daily morning routine due to weather and it upset me to the point i balled my eyes out and called in. No matter what learning/mental disability you have you can do it..I BELIEVE IN YOU! Most people also think i am on the autism spectrum but when i was tested for things as a kid autism wasn’t very popular and people didn’t know a lot about the spectrum. Also, just becuase i am successful doesn’t mean i dont struggle. How many of you can read out loud? Hoe many of you can actually read a page out of a book? Well i cant and in my “successful” job i was at a credntialing class and they made me read out loud and you know what happened the girl sitting next to me took over reading because i could barely get through the first scentence. I can read in my head however, no matter how hard i try i can’t read out loud and that is embarrassing. So before you hate on people like me really think about it we aren’t differnet than you. You can do it too and if you need I will help you and that is what i do for a living i advocate for people with disabilities and people in poverty because I want the young children to have a fighting chance and i want to see all people succeed.
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